Defining Hope

HOPE believes, anchors, surrenders {lets go of worries/fears}, defines, grows…


What are you hoping for? Have you attached it to your faith or your fears? Have you stopped hoping and only started wishing?

Hope is the result/fruit from the seed of faith, without it, it’s impossible to please God.

Meaning, it’s impossible to live a life according to the plan and purpose God has for your life.

⚓️Without HOPE we wander around blind.

⚓️Without HOPE we fail to set goals because we’ve decided to expect the worse in every situation.

⚓️Without HOPE it’s not whether we see the glass half empty or half full it’s whether we see the glass at all because our FOCUS is on everything else around the glass.


Guest Post: Emotional eating & fear of the scale

5 Ways Emotional Eating and Scale Dread Can Sabotage Weight Loss

by Linda Spangle RN MA


If we viewed food as merely fuel for our bodies, most of us wouldn’t have weight challenges. The fact is that food gives us pleasure. It also gives us comfort. And certain foods trigger powerful memories from our youth.

Emotional eating is when we overeat or eat unconsciously because we’re angry, stressed out, tired, bored, or depressed, and it sometimes makes us feel better, at least temporarily.

We also have emotional associations with the scale. Perhaps we were overweight as a child, and now dread stepping on the scale. That scale number feels like a wagging, judgmental finger. It’s also common for people who struggle with weight management to feel self-conscious and ashamed to step on the scale at the doctor’s office.

Emotions are powerful saboteurs in the battle of the bulge. Fortunately, by understanding the role emotions play in eating and weight management behavior, we can change negative behaviors and attitudes.

Here are five behaviors that work against us when we’re trying to lose weight, and some strategies to change them.

Eating unconsciously.

You’re under the gun at work–too much pressure! So you start munching on chips while you work furiously to catch up. Or maybe you get into a fight with your spouse, and now you just want to eat a bag of cookies. When anger, stress, and frustration trigger a need to eat chewy or crunchy food, you have what I call “head hunger.” Instead of grabbing for the food, ask yourself, “What do I really need to chew on?” Look at those feelings, and deal with them. Sometimes vigorous activity, such a 25 jumping jacks, will relieve the need to chew and crunch.

Eating for comfort

“Heart hunger,” on the other hand, is caused by the emotions of lack or emptiness: sadness, loneliness, boredom, or restlessness. At times like these, we usually crave comforting foods to “fill the hole” that we feel–soft foods like ice cream or macaroni and cheese, or foods that trigger pleasant memories, such as mom’s noodle kugel or grandmother’s apple pie. The way to get through such moments without eating is to ask yourself, “What do I need?” Do something self-nurturing, such as calling a friend or taking a hot bath or a nap.

Eating out of obligation.

How often do we eat because we’re at someone’s house and they baked cookies just for us? Or we feel we have to finish everything on our plate so the food doesn’t go to waste? It’s okay to cut a wedge off a cookie to taste it, but tasting is very different from consuming a whole cookie, which you’ll feel bad about later. As for wasting food, all food becomes waste, one way or another! Don’t fool yourself into thinking you’re “supposed” to eat when you’re not really hungry. Use food as nourishment and fuel, not as a way to relieve guilt.

Avoiding the scale.

When used as the helpful tool it was designed to be, your scale is a wonderful weight-loss ally. It helps you track your progress and keeps you “honest.” However, many people hate being weighed at their doctor’s so much that they avoid getting needed checkups. Don’t let the dreaded doctor’s scale get in the way of your health. Instead, you can tell the nurse you prefer not to be weighed. Or you can close your eyes and ask the nurse to record the number but not tell you. Or you can weigh yourself at home and then ask the doctor to record that number at the end of your consultation.

Hating the scale.

Many of us have negative emotions–such as shame, embarrassment, hopelessness, low self-esteem, or even self-hatred–that we associate with our innocent bathroom scale. Weighing yourself every day on the same scale at the same time can really help with weight loss. Be aware, though, that the number on the scale will go up and down for many reasons that have nothing to do with real weight gain. Some things that affect the reading are time of day, water intake, extreme temperatures, stress, and illness. However, if you’re following a healthy eating plan and getting regular exercise, your weight will go down. Don’t get mad at your scale because of past memories. Just stick with your program.

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Linda Spangle RN MA ( is a weight-management specialist recognized nationally as a leading authority on emotional eating and other psychological issues of weight loss. She’s the owner of Weight Loss for Life, a healthy lifestyles coaching and training program located in Denver. Spangle’s newest book is Friends with the Scale: How to Turn Your Scale into a Powerful Weight Loss Tool (SunQuest Media, 2014).

5 minute Friday: Do life big & bloom


May 2002 ‘Party of Five’







Freeman Family {May 2012}

Freeman Family. Tahlar’s graduation May 2012




Senior photos 2012

He makes me bloom. This man child of mine.

Precious in his spirit, compassionate, free from some of the baggage many of his peers carry yet he has owned things I pray he would recognize aren’t his to maintain.

From the day I discovered he was coming to change my world, to the day I stood and watch him swear an oath to protect and serve our country in the Army National Guard; my heart for this child has been placed in the hands of God.

Prayers and prayers and prayers.

Watching his innocence, reflecting on how deep he holds emotion, how his heart swells for the hearts of others.

Prayers and prayers and prayers.

20 years.

He leaves August 18th for Basic Training. I turn 40 on August 3.

20 years. 20 years of growth. 20 years of life.

Today, I’m gonna DO LIFE BIG as if today were the first day of realizing that 20 years were gifted to me.

The vision will still happen at the appointed time. It hurries toward its goal. It won’t be a lie. 

If it’s delayed, wait for it. It will certainly happen. It won’t be late. (Habakkuk 2:3)


20 years included some dirt.

Seeds are planted in dirt.

Today we’ll bloom.


Fit for your fight

Today’s motivation came through the lyrics of the song ‘Come Alive’ by Jeremy Camp

You are training to be fit for the fight & run the race God has called you to run!

Come Alive

As I watch the world being held captive by dreams
That will never be fulfilled in this life,
Chasing the darkness and everything that surrounds
All the emptiness buried inside,
Well I won’t stop showing this hope that is holding
The passion so deep in my heart,
To tell all the world of Your love and affection
And the plan that You’ve had from the start,
So I will continue to fight

‘Til the world comes alive
‘Til the world comes alive
Cause You have restored us
And You have redeemed us
And we have been given new life
Cause You are alive

There is a freedom that begins by receiving
The forgiveness that cleanses us all
All the broken and bleeding just start by believing
His love has conquered death’s call.
So I will continue to fight

‘Til the world comes alive
‘Til the world comes alive
Cause You have restored us

Define Yourself

Romans 8
2 Kings 6:15-17
Psalm 37:23





Funny, because I attempted to post this before and the post was deleted. And the message I got from that was exactly what has happened in the first half of my year. Stuff has come undone only to allow God to do it the way that He saw it was suppose to happen. Some days were questioned with wondering what’s coming next. Like seriously wondering if Locust were on their way.

Not out of fear, but wondering where God was taking me and where did I ‘fit’.

At times, more often than not, I wondered was I alone. NO, truth is I asked God WHY was I in it alone.

The song Be Held by Casting Crowns brought healing to the empty places in my life and started helping me understand why it was hurting so bad.  It helped me to begin to see things through unshattered glass and started preparing me for a journey I had no idea was ahead of me.

Casting Crowns (Be Held)

Casting Crowns: Be Held

Hold it all together
Everybody needs you strong
But life hits you out of nowhere
And barely leaves you holding on

And when you’re tired of fighting
Chained by your control
There’s freedom in surrender
Lay it down and let it go

So when youre on your knees and answers seem so far away
Youre not alone, stop holding on and just be held
Your worlds not falling apart, its falling into place
Im on the throne, stop holding on and just be held
Just be held, just be held

If your eyes are on the storm
Youll wonder if I love you still
But if your eyes are on the cross
Youll know I always have and I always will

And not a tear is wasted
In time, youll understand
Im painting beauty with the ashes
Your life is in My hands

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FOCUS: Surrender freedom, find whitespace & define yourself

“Hey soul! It may not feel like it but please believe it, you were made for this—Lean Hard Into Him–DO THE HARD THINGS!!” -Ann Voskamp

You’re my recovery, changing who I was, to who I’m meant to be, you set me free…(Unspoken:Recovery) 20140704-103441-38081931.jpg


Be surrendered strong. Because your Savior is strong enough to do anything. Isaiah 40:29– He gives STRENGTH to the weary and increases the power of the weak!! God’s call, done ONLY by God’s Grace, will never run out of God’s strength!!! Praise YOU JESUS that you are so worthy to praise. That your mercy endures. That your grace is sufficient. That your LOVE covers me. That YOU have made ME STRONGER!!! A few weeks ago I found rest & healing in volunteering at a nursing home outreach with my church. I didn’t realize I hadn’t forgiven myself for not being able to visit my mom while she was in a nursing home before either of them passed. I didn’t realize how much I wish I still had time to spend with my mom and my dad. I didn’t realize that I still needed time. Time to laugh with them. Time to cry with them. Time to heal with them. Time to surrender love with them.


Honoring ‘Papa’ 4.19.14

20140611-085554.jpg   I just needed time.   I needed time to hear words I was searching for and hadn’t heard from them. Specifically from my dad.   I needed to know they needed me. I needed to know that they hadn’t rejected me. I needed to know. But God knew.

He Knows My Name

(Francesca Battistelli) 

Spent today in a conversation
In the mirror face to face with
somebody less than perfect
I wouldn’t choose me first if
I was looking for a champion
In fact I’d understand if
You picked everyone before me
But that’s just not my story
True to who You are
You saw my heart
and made
Something out of nothing 

Stand Tall.

Years of unheard affirmations, a heart that desires to be healed.

A hand that desires to be held.

A daughter that just needed to know her parents are proud of her.

I just needed to know that those echoes whispering “you’re not enough” or “just be quiet” could be replaced.

I needed to know that I wasn’t just wishing to hear him say to me directly  “I love you” ; I needed to know it wasn’t just a hope but it was a certainty.

I needed to know.


God knew what I needed. He ALWAYS knows what we need exactly when we need it.

I found some of my resolve, recovery & rest in a book I trust and believe God Himself breathed on.

Finding Whitespace

I was chosen to sit on a team of bloggers to review the new book “finding spiritual whitespace: awakening your soul to rest”.

Simply reading the back cover description: “move beyond surviving to a rejuvenating place of soul rest” gives you an idea of the thirst quenching refreshing it offers.

“Have you heard the words I don’t want you (or something similar) thrown at you? Have you felt them smack against your heart, leaving an echo of pain across your soul? Whether it be friendship, a job, good health, an opportunity, a community we tried to enter, a dream, a child we wanted, a man you loved, or parents — aren’t these the words we fear will fall into our ears? These are the words I felt doomed to hear if I didn’t become someone who deserved to be loved and cherished. Inaudible echoes whispering…” (Finding Spiritual Whitespace: whitespace is extravagance)

20140602-123207.jpg Author Bonnie Gray captured the heart of Christ in His desire to breathe new life into weary souls. She explains that we all need spiritual whitespace; in graphic design whitespace is a key element to the aesthetic quality of a composition. The more fine art a composition is, the more whitespace you’ll find. Whitespace is the pace left unmarked. Untouched. Whitespace makes art beautiful. It give the eye a place to rest. Just like beautiful art, our souls need balance and beauty. Finding Spiritual Whitespace

“I’ve carried this uneasy suspicion that I was nothing special and everyone would probably know it if I ever stopped doing and simply was plain old me. The whisper of nothings special sat next to me in my career. Those words whisper to me…as a mom…in friendships that end up as one-way relationships. They hiss at me loudly, because I don’t want to fail.” (finding spiritual whitespace: awakening your soul to rest)

About the Book: Finding Spiritual Whitespace is memoir-driven guidebook for anyone longing to create space in life to draw closer to God, to rest and discover who they can become when rest becomes their heart’s everyday home.

This book chronicles Bonnie’s heartbreaking journey through painful memories, how a childhood dream unexpectedly launched her into a debilitating journey through panic attacks, insomnia and anxiety — and how creating space to feed her soul led her to create a better story for her life, one filled with beauty and meaning.

The book explores how our lives are like God’s artwork, exploring ways to create space for beauty, rest and soul care. Just as beautiful art needs whitespace, we need whitespace. We need rest. Whitespace is not blank space. It breathes beauty.

Who This Book Is For:  

Take the journey to find rest. Uncover your stories.  Make room for you. For God. For Rest.

Using soulfuljournaling prompts for individual reflection or intimate group discussion at the end of each chapter, anyone longing for rest in today’s fast paced and stress-frayed schedules can take the journey to find rest, feed their souls, rejuvenate and make room for beauty, for God and rest.

He calls me chosen, free, forgiven, wanted, child of the King, His forever, held in treasure…

I am loved

My heart needed to know. To know these words. To find the whitespace that proclaims that I am free. That I am known.  This is the day that I’m starting over, on a narrow path, potentially alone, but trusting He is still with me reminding me that I am not alone. I’m asking God to give us courage to risk. To guide us. To give us intuition. To give us wisdom to find people we welcome in. It’s the whitespace of friendship. It doesn’t fix us. It frees us to rest.

Because He knows our name. He is our recovery!


“You will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” -Philippians 4:7 (NLT)


“Perfect peace from God isn’t found by forgetting. Peace is ours if we dare to remember our pain and our sorrow, and experience our fears fully with Jesus. Shalom peace from God is a putting back together. Shalom is the movement to recover pieces of a ourselves that have been abandoned, a putting back together of what we’ve left behind, to find Jesus with us in our memories. Shalom peace is now my new place of faith.” – (Bonnie Gray; Finding Spiritual Whitespace)   You keep him in perfect peace {Shalom} whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you – Isaiah 26:3 ESV

Stand Brave

I was feeling bloated and frustrated and I’d like to say I’m about two weeks behind schedule on a few goals I set for myself and probably a few pounds heavier. (I don’t ever get on the scale but my clothes are too tight so there ya go). But I truly believe that God needed to shift and sift a few things in my “TO DO” list, things that He saw would be my benefit and He would still get the glory. Is it just me? Am I the only one that feels heavy(er). Heavy with stuff. All kinda stuff. I feel stuffed.

So then let’s also run the race that is laid out in front of us, since we have such a great cloud of witnesses surrounding us. Let’s throw off any extra baggage, get rid of the sin that trips us up, (Hebrews 12:1 CEB)

This week can be different even if nothing on the outside changes, if on the inside you let God strengthen you and take over your weaknesses. Move forward in the freedom God has already given you. You are not defined by your weaknesses. – Judah Smith FREEDOM 20140704-105757-39477978.jpg

Define yourself – Live Free

Whitespace signifies importance. In graphic design, whitespace draws the viewer to FOCUS on the images and text that are most important. Whitespace brings an intimacy and immediacy to the page – awakening the foreground and quieting the background.

I Pronounce a breakthrough of blessings over you. An inner strength of confidence to move forward in the direction of the things you’ve delayed out of fear. To boldly be & do what God has placed deep in your heart. Go. He’s given you authority to do great things. 20140704-105755-39475408.jpg   In Jesus name & power let freedom be your focus!

Write your story – a Whitespace Prompt

Find your creative whitespace: When you were little, what did you enjoy doing? What came naturally to you? Enjoy God in inspiring places. Where are places that inspire the artistic you? Outdoors near the beach or mountains? Indoors in front of an easel or a desk? Maybe it’s experiential, clicking behind a camera lens, walking through an art gallery, listening to live music, or observing life from a chair at a cafe? Is it through learning, taking a class you’ve always wanted to explore?   What’s your S.T.O.R.Y.  Join the July Challenge and (re)define yourself. 20140704-105756-39476041.jpg

 Fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you…for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. (2 Timothy 1:6-7 ESV)

Swimsuit Confidence is New Opportunities

“Do not remember the past events, pay no attention to things of old. Look, I am about to do something new; even now it is coming. Do you not see it? Indeed, I will make a way in the wilderness, rivers in the desert. (Isaiah 43:18, 19 HCSB)


A few weeks ago had a guest speaker who spoke on unleashing our gifts. He also challenged us on being careful that our strengths don’t become our weaknesses. I know as God is writing my story, He’s revealing things that I’ve ignored. It wasn’t coincidence that the speaker was from my hometown of Canton Ohio and I’m in Atlanta GA.

It’s not coincidence that when I went down for prayer to unleash that gift I stood toward the back & was signaled by 3 people to move closer to the front then finally pulled onto the stage. He prayed over me he said The Lord is about to do a new thing.

It’s not coincidence that when I opened my eyes after the prayer I was the only one standing there.

The Holy Spirit whispered that I had been set apart. A beacon of light placed on mantle to be an ambassador of change from the darkest places.

No one lights a lamp and puts it in a place where it will be hidden, or under a bowl. Instead they put it on a stand, so that those who come in May see the light. Luke 11:33

What’s the light in you?

As I went to my seat I prayed feeling left alone up there and I heard God whisper, ‘that was intentional, I needed to endorse you’…

What is God whispering to you?

Have you been bold enough to grab what He’s told you is yours?

where does all this lead?

It’s not for us to figure out, only to surrender and be willing! He’s ready to move…

Rubber band faith


Confidence comes when we: LISTEN

We’re time crunched, proclaiming that we’re ‘too busy’ but yet we’re desperately searching for something more. I wonder if just for today, we were willing to adjust our focus & create some opportunity to fill what’s been empty…What would happen?

Are we moving too quick in the wrong direction?

Are we moving fast toward the very thing we’re praying to be relieved of?

Could we slow down, breathe deep, discipline our words and calm our frustrations?

Could we adjust our focus toward listening?

Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. (James 1:19 NLT) #getinneractive

How quick are you to listen? How slow are you to speak? How long does it take you to get angry?

20140513-090244.jpgHere’s a test

Confidence is: The Law of the Rubber Band

- In his book The 15 Laws of Invaluable Growth John Maxwell explains that people and rubber bands have one thing in common; they must be stretched to be effective. The Law of The Rubber Band expands: The Growth Stops When You Lose the Tension Between Where You are and Where You Could Be.

Sometimes I catch myself getting frustrated when the plans that I had fell through. Sometimes I find myself frustrated when people don’t do things the way I want them to do them. Sometimes I pray a huge prayer and with all confidence I trust that God is going to answer my prayer. Sometimes he answers the prayer but it just never looks like I expected. That’s the law the rubber band. That’s the opportunity for growth. That is God’s way of saying I got this!

Don’t be impressive”

During our quiet meditation time at Refresh Summit We prayed asking God what it was He was asking us to do. These are the words I heard DONT BE IMPRESSIVE.

Like a ton of bricks it hit my heart. Pride?! No?!?! Yes!?! There’s that thin line between confidence & show time. Oh dear Lord search me & cleanse my heart. All I could do was allow Him access to clean up anything that made me feel the urge to prove myself, to perform, to be like-able. It’s a grey space. A scary place. A vulnerable place. But when we allow Him access to those hidden places, He exchanges our need for performance with peace & acceptance. He exchanges the deep sorrows for pure joy that’s unspeakable. He exchanges disappointment with faith that’s unsinkable. He exchanges rejection for love that’s unstoppable. He exchanges worry & doubt with a certainty that anything is possible. This exchange becomes the light in you, it becomes your hope, it becomes your anchor. It changes your heart, your mind, your appearance, your relationships, your perspective, your desire to share hope.

Adjust your focus. He wants you, all of you. He want to share you with the world to show them who you are. A beautiful work of His hands.

Wonderfully Made!!! The hope you find, that fire in you, the light you carry, is yours to share. Don’t impress, lead them to the Cross. #thatdontimpressme

How’s your timing

God’s timing is always perfect even if it is not ours! I’m learning & living (intentionally) what that truly means. It’s a daily thing. It’s an acceptance & appreciation thing.

In the acceptance it’s without murmuring or complaining; not feeling like you’re settling but honoring that God knows what’s best so He sometimes gets rid of things or teaches you how to wait on Him! That’s where the appreciation happens. That’s the true secret of success. “I pray that you may be strengthened in your inner being…that your body would be filled & flooded with God Himself.” {Ephesians 3}

Allow your body the freedom to do what it can & let God do the rest!

And that timing includes recognizing things like laundry (sigh), grocery shopping (double sigh) and dare I say cookingcleaningansweringphonecallsyoudrathetsendtovoicemailandsmilingwhenyoudratherjustcry… (Exhibit A: neat pile of need to put away clothes from our trip to Ohio 2 weeks past)! Smile God’s watching!

Who’s your tribe

A tribe is a group of people connected to one another, connected to a leader, and connected to an idea. For millions of years, human beings have been part of one tribe or another. A group needs only two things to be a tribe: a shared interest and a way to communicate.
Seth Godin

I heard John Legand’s song All Of You and my heart flooded. I believe we all desperately want all of our family, friends, husbands. We want the support, the leaders, the lovers, the laugher, the lazy…well maybe not lazy but laid back LOL

It got me to wondering how much do we give? Do we give our all? Most moms would say Oh my word I give so much I have nothing more to give…ok, stop…breathe…


Lord balance me. Break me where I’m too strong, strengthen me where I’m weak. Teach me & guide me Lord in your ways.




Instead of focusing on adding or subtracting or even the diving up responsibilities. Today let’s consider the opportunity to multiply. If we give just one tiny effort. One thought. One consideration. One minute. One conversation. One less irritation. One undivided attention. Maybe, just maybe God would multiply our little bit and cause it to be more than enough.

Getinneractive. Be better. Be multiplied. NEEDTOBREATHE – Multiplied



2 miles of grace & do-overs


I’m the first to admit that I’m not really a runner. I’m an arm pumpin’ torso twistin 80s era power-walker who just happens to bend her knees and pick her feet up off the ground a quicker pace. Yeah. Ok, I admit I’m a convert. But still, I admit that the very thought of running makes me nauseated, my knees begin to hurt and all I can see is the finish line in that far-far-far-far off distance. I shutter at the word distance. But enough about that, I’m suppose to be motivating  you to run right. So here goes.

Once you start movin, you’ll find out why you did it in the first place, when that motivation takes over there’s a sudden rush of adrenaline that propels you into this cocky nirvana and has you thinkin’ you could climb Mount Everest. Ok maybe that’s just me. At any rate, when you reach YOUR finish line, whether it’s 1 mile, 3 miles or 26 miles, it’s priceless.

I love the Reebok marketing theme: #ReebokIgnite2014 it’s all about reigniting the goals you set, and then proving to yourself that you are fully capable of accomplishing them one step at a time. You’ll show yourself how to #livewithfire and create a spark of inspiration everywhere you go!

I’ve been given another chance to move with purpose. After going nearly 4 months unable to walk, dance or run my faith was tested and I questioned if any of that was even going to be possible again. All I had was prayer & God. Not even God on the pages of my bible but God Himself. What I didn’t know was that I hadn’t learned who HE was. Those 4 months not only showed me who He was but who I was and how I wasn’t who I could be but that He wanted to remake me.

It was scary. It was vulnerable. It was lonely. It was transforming.

It was one of those moments you realize you can’t take your friends with you if you want this bad enough because you’re the one who needs this right now.

So I went. I can’t even say I went willingly at first. Kinda like that first mile. It sucks, I try to convince myself I actually wanted to do it!

Yeah the 4 months I spent alone with God taught me how weak I was. That experience taught me that I was assuming I needed to be strong in those areas but He actually wanted to see my weakness so that He could be my strength.

It taught me that without His power, strength and grace and do-overs I’m nothing!

Thank God for do-overs!!!

Can I get an amen?!?!

Ok so now about you running… You got this, whether it’s walking your first 5K, running, becoming a runner, distance walker, woggers and the like.

I’ve set the spark and it’s your move!!!

On your mark, get set, go

Do you run? Why? If not, Would you reconsider if you had a group you could connect with & train with?

Do you need a do-over? Right where you are just tell Him Lord give me your grace to do over! Just like that He gives it! But it requires a bit of movement on your part because the word says don’t just be hearers!

Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you are a listener when you are anything but, letting the Word go in one ear and out the other. Act on what you hear! Those who hear and don’t act are like those who glance in the mirror, walk away, and two minutes later have no idea who they are, what they look like.

But whoever catches a glimpse of the revealed counsel of God—the free life!—even out of the corner of his eye, and sticks with it, is no distracted scatterbrain but a man or woman of action. That person will find delight and affirmation in the action. (James 1:22-25 MS

Ready, Set, Run

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Making room for space


Whitespace holds beauty. It is the key element of design that gives balance to a composition, transforming a cluttered collection of objects into an aesthetic expression of what we do see.

- Bonnie Gray

May I ask you a question? How often do you clear out your closets, cabinets and garages to make room for space?

How often do you consider doing that in your life? Better yet, how often do you take it one step further; instead of just considering it, actually do it?

I’m doing it!

I’m taking it one step further because I realize it’s that one step in the direction I’ve never gone that could bring me the freedom I’ve never had.

I’m learning this new step is called Spiritual Whitespace. A breakthrough discovery map of allowing God to clear out the clutter. Spiritual Whitespace is a book every woman needs! Bonnie Gray stood where most of us stand either at the foot of the Cross and question HOW or at the edge of redemption and question WHY.

She doesn’t give you the answer, she points you to the one answer!

Whitespace in art is the space on a page left unmarked. It’s a space for a story…Hold on though, those words scare me because my story is scary.

My story keeps me.

That’s the issue.

I want my story to be one that says I’m free. So here we go. Let’s be free. Not hurried. Free.

Finding Him isn’t hurried. Finding Him might take time but it doesn’t take up time

You see, I had to ask myself even am I incorrect in recognizing that I can’t be so pressed to ‘finish the book’ on finding spiritual whitespace; that I may miss the meaning of the whitespace…

Just something The Lord pressed on me.

To quote Bonnie…

“What I’m trying to say is I don’t want
to be that little girl…frozen, needy, lost, confused. So I manage, I cope and I please.”

These words echo my heart.

These words bleed from my heart as I literally tick the number of days I’ve been living free from the bondage of my childhood which also (as God would time it) parallel the number of days since my father passed away.

Since I’ve made room to exchange my mangled memories with the truth of who he was.

Since I allowed God to make room to pick up my broken pieces and remake me.

Since my brokenness made room for space & became something I honestly could receive as beautiful!

Could I just make room for space to live in the whitespace when I find it instead of being in such a hurry to get to the next ‘whitespace’ as if it were another proverbial item on lists that never seem to end?

Could you make room for space?