FOCUS: Keep movin

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What should I eat?
What should I wear?
Does this make me look fat?
Why wasn’t I invited?
Who does that?
What’s wrong with her?
What’s wrong with me?
Don’t they know who I am?
I’m not fast enough, thin enough, strong enough, tall enough…

Crazy conversations with ourselves make us think we should do more, be more, have more. Maybe we should just be.

FOCUS: Pay attention. Seems simple enough right? My daughter is quick to remind me “but you’re not really even listening to me mommy”… ( #heartdrop )

Multitasking makes us feel productive. Full calendars make us feel important. Likes & followers make us feel; well, liked & followed #leaders

But lately I’ve seriously been asking myself, where is all this taking me? Where are we so anxious to get to? (Mark 8:36)

What will you gain, if you own the whole world but destroy yourself? (‭Mark‬ ‭8‬:‭36‬ CEVUS06)

Are we so pressed to be the most of anything & everything that we’re not even sure who we are especially if all of this went away?

Really, when was the last time you stopped to ask yourself where all of this is taking you?

>She Reads Truth #OpenYourBible has tugged my heart asking me the hard questions like what do you really believe & where is the proof of God’s word in your life?

Not proof for people but proof for process.

Process of God’s promise concerning His influence in my life.

First proof was leading me to #TheBestYes {The one who obeys God’s instruction for today will develop a keen awareness of His direction for tomorrow} In my coming & going, I pray my day can begin, pause and end wherever The Lord’s voice has instructed me. Even, when I’ve made a wrong turn. (Isaiah 30:21) (The Best Yes Ch. 1)

This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” (‭Joshua‬ ‭1‬:‭8-9‬ ESV)
#beINTENTIONAL #beFREE #focus #getinneractive

Have you been questioning how in the world you’re suppose to keep movin? Join us in November at Refresh Summit when we’ll take some time to give ourselves permission to just be! Be friends, be faith filled, be movin, be laughin, be content with who God is and who He created us to BE!

Register today for Refresh Summit

FOCUS: Refreshing

Have you registered for Refresh Summit? Somebody needs a moment of refreshing!

Maybe you can’t go, but what if you sponsored a woman? What if you sent your sister, your mom, your friend, men what if you sent your wife, what if you just wanted to be a blessing and said “I WANT TO SPONSOR A GIFT OF REFRESHING”?

⚓️I’ll refresh tired bodies; I’ll restore tired souls. (‭Jeremiah‬ ‭31‬:‭25‬ MSG)

Join me for a spirit, soul & body REFRESHING weekend of faith, fitness, friends & food.

Refreshing bible study

Invigorating, energizing, heart pumpin’, spirit movin’ & detoxing Zumba
REGISTER OR SPONSOR TODAY!
www.refreshsummit.com/speakers

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I sometimes think I don’t need refreshed. Til I get it.

You know the

Oh my gosh I didn’t realize just how much I needed that

feeling?

Yeah, that. Right!?!

One of those.
That’s what Refresh Summit is. It’s not a conference. It’s not in a conference room. It’s not anything you don’t want it to be and everything you need it to be all at the same time! It’s a thirst quencher.

Ha! Yes, that’s what it is. It’s the exact drink of whatever flavor of substance you needed before you even realized you needed it AND it’s that same drink when you said to yourself I’m so thirsty!

Register today! You’ll be glad you did!

Five Minute Fridays: REACH

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If you’re new here or haven’t participated before, here’s how it works:

Every Thursday a one-word prompt will be announced on the Five Minute Fridays blog at 10pm EST (and continuing through Friday).

Oh, and before the prompt is revealed, many of us like to connect on Thursday evenings on Twitter at the hashtag #fmfparty.  Come join us and chat all things writing, chocolate and cupcakes!

Those who’d like to participate in Five Minute Friday will write for five minutes on the topic of the week, post it on their own blog and link up the post here (via the InLinkz button at the bottom of the post).  Make sure you add the actual permalink to your specific post, and not your blog’s homepage (e.g. http://katemotaung.com/five-minute-friday/ and not just katemotaung.com).

If you don’t have a blog, you’re welcome to post your five minutes of writing in the comments here each week, or on the Five Minute Friday Facebook page.

This is meant to be a free write, which means: no editing, no over-thinking, no worrying about perfect grammar or punctuation.

Just write.

 

Today’s 5 minute Friday prompt is REACH: OK. GO. This week I tried really hard to reach. I tried to reach beyond my comfort zones and literally walk into the spaces I trust God has called me. Reaching required letting go. Reaching required being willing. Reaching meant there was a really big chance that God might do something I had no clue about. Reaching meant an unknown, scary, anxious thing. In an attempt to REACH I sat in front of my computer ready to write a blog and be productive. At that very moment a friend sent me a text to see how my day was going. All the anxiety I was trying to ignore flooded my soul and my hands began to shake. I grabbed a pen and paper and scratched the words

CALM MY ANXIOUS HEART.

I’ve had this overwhelming sense of urgency to do the work God has called me to but I don’t know the next steps. I’m trusting Him to put me in the right place and the right time with the right people. I’m shining my light in places that are very dark and very scary and it’s vulnerable. I’m stepping into territories I know I once thought had giants, only now I’m noticing there were no giants. I’m reaching beyond my comfort zone. It’s weird. It’s wild. It’s bending me. Flexible people don’t get bent out of shape. REACH ME LORD! STOP.

FOCUS: Crossroads & changes

Would you be willing to join me on a 21 Day FOCUS CHALLENGE?

21 Days to get honest & get real & get the change you’ve been praying about? To be intentional about letting God in? Literally ‘letting go’ of the mess? God wants to meet us there. The mess might be the issues Ruth food, obsession with the scale, annoyances of life that seem to clog our thoughts and cause us to get tripped up by anxiety because we can’t fix it!

I’m joining the She Reads Truth community in their study of Hosea.

Here’s a brief understanding of why they’ve chosen this book of the bible and why I believe it’s EXACTLY what we need RIGHT NOW!

“Hosea calls us to repentance. It encounters us at that important crossroads where we can choose to face our sin or ignore it. We can choose to acknowledge the shame we’re carrying like a heavy pack on our weary backs, or we can keep walking and pretend it’s not there. This is what the book of Hosea does for me—it causes me to say things out loud to the Lord that I don’t want to say, and then forces me to stand and listen as He patiently and earnestly says back to me, “I love you, I love you, I love you.””

Are you in? If so all I need you to do is stick around. Make sure you’re signed up for email updates so we can continue to encourage each other. Comment below just so I know you’re breathing! :-)

Let’s be intentional.

Keep your heart pumpin, spirit movin & get inneractive!

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Five Minute Friday: Change

Today’s Five minute Friday topic: Change 20140328-101024.jpg Ok, here I go… Change hurts. Change happened when I opened a brand new journal before the beginning of a new year. Crisp clean pages and a new pen (obsessions with both – but that’s another topic); ready to be used for the purpose and potential they were created.  I had plans. BIG PLANS. Plans for this to be MY YEAR!!!  Cuz that’s what we do at the end of the year and the beginning of another. We say they aren’t resolutions yet they resemble them quite remarkably.  At any rate, I was focused on the change that was coming. Whatever it was, I was ready. I mean really ready this time. (Never mind the others cuz this time was different – I felt it deep down in my soul) I even wrote it in big blog letters:

NO MATTER WHAT: FOCUS 

That was my way of making sure that I stayed on track. Change was coming because change was what I wanted.  For 4 months I couldn’t walk. My dad died. My 7 year old niece was diagnosed with cancer. I turned 40 and my son joined the military.  My world was changed.  It’s almost September. God had a plan…  To change my focus.  To change me.  To change my change.

Many are the plans in the mind of a man, (a person’s heart) but it is the purpose of the LORD that will stand. Proverbs 19:21 As a man thinketh {in his heart} so is he.

God had a plan to change my heart.

What change is God making in your life? What change can I help you pray about?  

STOP.

Join the Five Minute Fridays Community Five Minute Fridays 1. Write for 5 minutes flat – no editing, no over thinking, no backtracking. (On your own blog or in the comments here).
2. Link back here and invite others to join in. 3. And then absolutely, no ifs, ands or buts about it, you need to visit the person who linked up before you & encourage them in their comments. Seriously. That is, like, the rule. And the fun. And the heart of this community..

Back to Basics: GRACE & Strength

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Don’t ruin a good today

by thinking about a bad yesterday.

That’s solid right?

Yeah it is.

Grace.

That’s Grace.

Grace is the fact; that what we will be has not happened yet.

Can you say scream AMEN?

I mean FOR REAL I JUST SCREAMED AMEN! GO AHEAD NOBODY WILL BE MAD IF YOU SCREAM TOO!

We get do overs. We get a clean slate to start new, begin again…

Yesterday didn’t happen like you expected. Yesterday was not so awesome.

So what.

You woke up.

You’re on the internet or your phone reading this. Grace covered you!

My husband surprised me with a trip to Paris France. He surprised me for my 40th birthday!

My babies aren’t babies anymore. My biggest baby left for the military today.

I just turned 40. All this happened in a matter of days.

Grace covers me.

Paris adjusted my focus. Paris made me realize just what I have. Paris made me realize that I get to decide what I have. Paris helped me recognize the truth and peace of Grace.

Grace is Spiritual Whitespace!!!

I’ve been discovering that the little girl in me never knew she was worth ‘it’, whatever it was.

The Holy Spirit spoke clear to me on our trip to Paris and said I was blessed with this surprise because my husband (through the prompting & guidance of The Lord) thought I was worth it!

I fought the emotions of that shattered, broken-hearted little girl from trying to hide from the big fears of intimidation, of who might say what, what they might think about this big surprise & the love of my husband. I feared sharing my blessing.

It’s a crazy pit of deception the enemy tries to throw us in and a weight of despair he tries to throw on us!

DON’T ALLOW THE DEVIL TO CONVINCE YOU OF A LIE!

We are not defined by our past!

GRACE COVERS YOU!!!

I love when God creates golden opportunities to share His grace through Spiritual Whitespace!!!

I taught a senior fitness class where I got a chance to share my testimony of healing and how Finding Spiritual Whitespace helped with the process!

Not enough women (and men for that matter) know or understand how much He wants us to be set free!!!

You decide.

The Lord watches over everyone who obeys him, and he listens to their prayers. But he opposes everyone who does evil.” Can anyone really harm you for being eager to do good deeds? (‭1 Peter‬ ‭3‬:‭12-13‬ CEVUS06)

God’s grace is sufficient. Be intentional & purposeful to use it.

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Sooooo many exciting things are happening this week!!!

All this grace & spiritual whitespace has prompted me to step out if my fears & into the BIG PRAYERS!!!

I dare you to pray BIG PRAYERS today and watch what happens.

What big prayers are you praying and how can I pray for you?

Back to Basics: Fix Your Eyes

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Your life might be the only bible anyone ever reads -Ps. Keith Beckwith

Is your life visibly a reflection & metaphor of what you speak?

Are you living what you speak?

What do you have your eyes fixed on?

Hit rewind
Click delete
Stand face to face with the younger me
All of the mistakes
All of the heartbreak
Here’s what I’d do differently

I’d love like I’m not scared
Give when it’s not fair
Live life for another
Take time for a brother
Fight for the weak ones
Speak out for freedom
Find faith in the battle
Stand tall but above it all
Fix my eyes on you

You are more than enough because the God in you didn’t make any mistakes when He created you.

Paris, je t'aime (Paris I Love You)

Paris, je t’aime (Paris I Love You)

Let’s get back to the basics of living well.

Living like we know we’re blessed to live.

Living like you know that you’re redeemed from every mistake, every thing ever done wrong to you, every blame, every short coming, every fault, every sin. Yes EVERY sin.

Living in the BASICS of life seem so elementary and simple that it sometimes seems to simple to work.

We over complicate thing.

We think too hard on the little things and try to explain unexplainable situations.

Sometimes it’s worth just stepping back or taking the scary step forward, letting go and literally surrendering; just opening your hands and letting EVERYTHING fall out that doesn’t need to be there.

We hold onto things that aren’t worth holding onto.

We let go of things that should be held deep in our hearts; not clenched in our fists.

Let’s fix our eyes.

The things of Earth are dimming
In the light of Your glory and grace
I’ll set my sights upon Heaven
I’m fixing my eyes on you
I’m fixing my eyes on you
I’m fixing my eyes

-FIX MY EYES -For King & Country

Take a deep breath:

Wherever you are right now, take a long deep breath through your nose and allow your lungs to completely fill with air.

Now slowly release that breath through your nose allowing your shoulders to slump, tucking your chin to your chest.

Do that again, only  this time as you breathe in lift your chin toward the ceiling tilting your head back and open your chest, as you breathe out allow your shoulders to relax behind you as if you were tucking them into your back pockets.

Adjust your focus. God never intended for you to carry all of that on your shoulders.

It may take time, it may take pressure, it may take unraveling your tangled webs.

Don’t fear moving forward slowly. Fear  standing still!

He wants you free. He’s listening to your heart right now and wants to release you of those weights. Let go.

Life is a balance. It’s coming and going. It’s faith and fitness. It’s family and friends. It’s you and God. At the center of it all, you’ll find that the “balancer” of the scale is Christ. It must be Christ otherwise we find ourselves juggling. Managing time, goals, desires, a happy marriage, a healthy lifestyle…it’s balance. There’s no way we can balance without Christ. Spirit, soul and body He’s the focus.

Can we pray?

Lord the deepest desires of our hearts are sometimes unclaimed because we simply don’t know what to call them. I pray that you would hear the sudden change of pace in our heart beat. Whether it speeds up from anxious cares or slows down in despair, hear it. Hear and help us in the spaces we don’t allow freedom, hear us in the spaces we didn’t know you cared about, hear us in the spaces that we’ve scream, cried, cheered, or sat quietly. Consider our hearts Lord, with every beat mend the breaking and restore us to a place of joy, peace, compassion, tender mercy, and perseverance. In your name we pray and receive your Grace. Amen

If you need to talk, you need a prayer partner or just need a simple prayer, comment below or contact me.

What is the Lord speaking into your life right now, where is he asking you to just live like you mean it, where is He asking you to fix your eyes?

Defining Hope

HOPE believes, anchors, surrenders {lets go of worries/fears}, defines, grows…

 

What are you hoping for? Have you attached it to your faith or your fears? Have you stopped hoping and only started wishing?

Hope is the result/fruit from the seed of faith, without it, it’s impossible to please God.

Meaning, it’s impossible to live a life according to the plan and purpose God has for your life.

⚓️Without HOPE we wander around blind.

⚓️Without HOPE we fail to set goals because we’ve decided to expect the worse in every situation.

⚓️Without HOPE it’s not whether we see the glass half empty or half full it’s whether we see the glass at all because our FOCUS is on everything else around the glass.

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Guest Post: Emotional eating & fear of the scale

5 Ways Emotional Eating and Scale Dread Can Sabotage Weight Loss

by Linda Spangle RN MA

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If we viewed food as merely fuel for our bodies, most of us wouldn’t have weight challenges. The fact is that food gives us pleasure. It also gives us comfort. And certain foods trigger powerful memories from our youth.

Emotional eating is when we overeat or eat unconsciously because we’re angry, stressed out, tired, bored, or depressed, and it sometimes makes us feel better, at least temporarily.

We also have emotional associations with the scale. Perhaps we were overweight as a child, and now dread stepping on the scale. That scale number feels like a wagging, judgmental finger. It’s also common for people who struggle with weight management to feel self-conscious and ashamed to step on the scale at the doctor’s office.

Emotions are powerful saboteurs in the battle of the bulge. Fortunately, by understanding the role emotions play in eating and weight management behavior, we can change negative behaviors and attitudes.

Here are five behaviors that work against us when we’re trying to lose weight, and some strategies to change them.

Eating unconsciously.

You’re under the gun at work–too much pressure! So you start munching on chips while you work furiously to catch up. Or maybe you get into a fight with your spouse, and now you just want to eat a bag of cookies. When anger, stress, and frustration trigger a need to eat chewy or crunchy food, you have what I call “head hunger.” Instead of grabbing for the food, ask yourself, “What do I really need to chew on?” Look at those feelings, and deal with them. Sometimes vigorous activity, such a 25 jumping jacks, will relieve the need to chew and crunch.

Eating for comfort

“Heart hunger,” on the other hand, is caused by the emotions of lack or emptiness: sadness, loneliness, boredom, or restlessness. At times like these, we usually crave comforting foods to “fill the hole” that we feel–soft foods like ice cream or macaroni and cheese, or foods that trigger pleasant memories, such as mom’s noodle kugel or grandmother’s apple pie. The way to get through such moments without eating is to ask yourself, “What do I need?” Do something self-nurturing, such as calling a friend or taking a hot bath or a nap.

Eating out of obligation.

How often do we eat because we’re at someone’s house and they baked cookies just for us? Or we feel we have to finish everything on our plate so the food doesn’t go to waste? It’s okay to cut a wedge off a cookie to taste it, but tasting is very different from consuming a whole cookie, which you’ll feel bad about later. As for wasting food, all food becomes waste, one way or another! Don’t fool yourself into thinking you’re “supposed” to eat when you’re not really hungry. Use food as nourishment and fuel, not as a way to relieve guilt.

Avoiding the scale.

When used as the helpful tool it was designed to be, your scale is a wonderful weight-loss ally. It helps you track your progress and keeps you “honest.” However, many people hate being weighed at their doctor’s so much that they avoid getting needed checkups. Don’t let the dreaded doctor’s scale get in the way of your health. Instead, you can tell the nurse you prefer not to be weighed. Or you can close your eyes and ask the nurse to record the number but not tell you. Or you can weigh yourself at home and then ask the doctor to record that number at the end of your consultation.

Hating the scale.

Many of us have negative emotions–such as shame, embarrassment, hopelessness, low self-esteem, or even self-hatred–that we associate with our innocent bathroom scale. Weighing yourself every day on the same scale at the same time can really help with weight loss. Be aware, though, that the number on the scale will go up and down for many reasons that have nothing to do with real weight gain. Some things that affect the reading are time of day, water intake, extreme temperatures, stress, and illness. However, if you’re following a healthy eating plan and getting regular exercise, your weight will go down. Don’t get mad at your scale because of past memories. Just stick with your program.

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Linda Spangle RN MA (www.weightlossjoy.com) is a weight-management specialist recognized nationally as a leading authority on emotional eating and other psychological issues of weight loss. She’s the owner of Weight Loss for Life, a healthy lifestyles coaching and training program located in Denver. Spangle’s newest book is Friends with the Scale: How to Turn Your Scale into a Powerful Weight Loss Tool (SunQuest Media, 2014).

5 minute Friday: Do life big & bloom

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May 2002 ‘Party of Five’

 

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Easter

 

 

 

Freeman Family {May 2012}

Freeman Family. Tahlar’s graduation May 2012

 

 

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Senior photos 2012

He makes me bloom. This man child of mine.

Precious in his spirit, compassionate, free from some of the baggage many of his peers carry yet he has owned things I pray he would recognize aren’t his to maintain.

From the day I discovered he was coming to change my world, to the day I stood and watch him swear an oath to protect and serve our country in the Army National Guard; my heart for this child has been placed in the hands of God.

Prayers and prayers and prayers.

Watching his innocence, reflecting on how deep he holds emotion, how his heart swells for the hearts of others.

Prayers and prayers and prayers.

20 years.

He leaves August 18th for Basic Training. I turn 40 on August 3.

20 years. 20 years of growth. 20 years of life.

Today, I’m gonna DO LIFE BIG as if today were the first day of realizing that 20 years were gifted to me.

The vision will still happen at the appointed time. It hurries toward its goal. It won’t be a lie. 

If it’s delayed, wait for it. It will certainly happen. It won’t be late. (Habakkuk 2:3)

 

20 years included some dirt.

Seeds are planted in dirt.

Today we’ll bloom.