What should I get her for Christmas? Favorite things


One of my Silver Sneakers participants!


Whether it’s a gift for a mom, a sister, a friend, a grandmother, or significant other; we know that buying gifts for women can be somewhat challenging ESPECIALLY if you have no idea what her favorite things are. So, we surveyed a group of moms and asked them what was at the top of their Christmas wish list. Keep in mind, these items are evergreen so if you run into the gifting crunch again, you can give to your hearts content and they’ll NEVER be out of season! One more thing, while some of these gifts can be bought and wrapped with a perfect bow, some of them are far more precious than anything you could ever put under a tree and worth all of the effort you put into ‘packaging’ them.

DISCLAIMER: If you’re still not sure what to get her after this list, then we HIGHLY suggest a giftcard to Target. LOL that seems to cover everything on the list right? Well, maybe not the babysitter, or peace, or the personal assistant…but you know, Target has pretty much everything else…



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Question for my mommy friends, What’s on your Christmas wish list? I know as moms we tend to say ‘nothing really I just want the kids to have what they want’ … considering that the kids are already taken care of for Christmas, we asked SO WHAT’S ON YOUR WISH LIST? The following is a running list (that continues to grow) from these women. They don’t want much!

(Personal THANK YOU to my facebook friends for sharing their wish lists)


Favorite Things To Look Good:


Skin care


A breakthrough anti-aging treatment system that delivers professional-grade, clinically proven results at home, without the expense, healing, downtime, or pain.



Diamond Earrings



workout clothes

ReebokStartWhere You Are

Start. Here, now, wherever you are

New sneakers

Reebok ZQuickElectrify

Reebok ZQuick Electrify


Favorite Things To Feel Good:

A Girls’ Get-away

Refresh Summit: Faith, Fitness & Friends weekend retreat

Refresh Summit: Faith, Fitness & Friends weekend retreat



Finding Spiritual Whitespace by Bonnie Gray




A babysitter

Massage/Spa Day  -Forget someone? Take 15% off orders of $200 or more! Use code JINGLE at checkout. 



enhance mobility, strength, balance, and overall fitness levels

To stay home with the kids

A leisurely drive along the West Coast shore

Weekend getaway with a couples massage


Breakfast in bed

DIY Breakfast in bed tray


Essential Oils kit


Young Living Essential Oils Kit


A home to rent

A trip to visit a friend/loved one


Favorite Things To Do Good:

Kitchen Aide mixer


Mix-it-up in the kitchen with a Kitchenaid mixer!


New Food processor

Electric blanket

Shiatsu Massage chair pads

Homedics MCS-100 Shiatsu Massage Cushion

massage chair


Coffee! Because, well it’s coffee (make sure you know her favorite brand because NO they are not all the same)

Keurig K45 Elite Brewing System, Black

A personal assistant -

She NEEDS a personal assistant & the inneractive FITCLUB TEAM MOMENT’em was created with HER in mind!

To literally assist her with the personal goals, desires and aspirations that she’s put on the back burner. To help her unlock her potential and get unstuck. Our 2015 FOCUS group will grab ahold of the “Make It Happen” anchor and get grounded and set some things into motion WITHOUT becoming overwhelmed.

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Join the January Anchored FOCUS group for goal setting, motivation, and accountability, fitness, nutrition and spiritual transformation!!

an iPad

Trip to NYC to see the lights! (OH MY GOSH YES)



**Can I Have It All? friend – A guide for every woman looking for answers on how to truly have (and do) it all! 

Can I Have And Do It All, Please?


**The Fitness Fanatic – FitFluential motivation & gift ideas for your active friends and family. 


**The hard-to-buy-for person –  Pinterest Gift Ideas   




Still need to shop for her? 

FOCUS: The Well of My Soul


FOCUS: The well of my soul.

IS it well with my soul?…

Because your plans are for my good, not my destruction!!!

Lord help me to adjust my focus and recognize YOUR plan Lord.

“Your soul is your highest self.”

The soul is the mind, the will, the imagination.

What you think OF yourself determines the way you speak ABOUT yourself, which develops your habits which then shape your life.

What kinda shape are you in?

I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned. (‭Romans‬ ‭12‬:‭1-3‬ ESV)

Help me to stop the mindset of fake it til I make it & adopt the spirit of faith it til I Grace it!

Because your plans are for my good not my destruction help me to adjust my focus and recognize your plan Lord.

Help me to remember that plan requires a process which includes growth which includes pruning which includes a cutting away of everything that’s dead.

Every high thing must measure itself
We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ, (‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭10‬:‭5‬ ESV)

Help me to know that without faith it’s impossible to get your attention.

Help me to recognize my identity when comparison kicks in and tries to cause me to immolate out of admiration but quickly morphs into imitation and ultimately because a thief robbing me of my joy.

Help us when we feel unnoticed, unworthy, and unlovely.

No comparisons, it robs our joy

complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. (‭Philippians‬ ‭2‬:‭2-4‬ ESV)

Is it well with my soul? What’s in that well?

Free Fitness gifts: 4 days of Christmas


Over the past several years, we’ve hosted one of our best & most popular fitness challenges The Holiday Body Challenge, which always includes the exciting 12 days of Christmas.

We’ve made our list, we’ve checked it twice, here’s the round up of all of the gifts both naughty and nice.

Fourth day of Christmas


On the 4th day of Christmas my trainer gave to me…

FOCUS: Define Yourself with the Holiday Body Challenge PiYo mission!!! 

The Goal: MOVE 


The Measure of Success: range of motion, flexibility, strength, balance, mental clarity & spiritual awareness that GOD IS FAITHFUL TO FINISH WHAT HE STARTED!!!  (Isaiah 66:9)  

It’s NEVER too late to DEFINE YOURSELF! 

ORDER YOUR PIYO in-home DVD set today & Join the Holiday Body Challenge 

Third Day of Christmas

Mandy Reid Yoga

On the 3rd day of Christmas my trainer gave to me… The freedom to move with Mandy Reid. Mandy is one of the sweetest, most precious souls I’ve come to know in this ministry of movement. The heart of her mission is to lead others to worship Jesus as they find freedom in their body, mind and spirit. {“For in Him we live and move and have our being.” Acts 17:28a} Mandy serves as the administrative director for Holy Yoga Ministries’ Holy Yoga TV. We had the pleasure of being blessed by Mandy’s gift at Refresh Summit Tis The Season for giving gifts! 

Please enjoy this movement flow with Mandy! 

Second Day of Christmas


  On the 2nd day of Christmas my trainer gave to me… dance to #ShakeItOff Day 2: Gift comes from REfit Revolution they started a revolution that’s to be admonished. I thank God for women like this. Women who said why not. Who decided what if. Who pushed down the door of ‘what ever’ and did it like a boss!!! Courageous, focused, professional, giving, and always ready to dance. They’re contagious dance skills, they’re hearts for leading people to the truth of Christ and an awesomeness I’ve never known or seen. 


Visit the 12 Days of Christmas Playlist to get yo dance on!!! 

First Day of Christmas


It’s that time of the year… Holiday Body Challenge 12 days of Christmas. Showing some love to some of my Fitfluential fit family with a few fitness gifts to keep you movin during the holidays!  12 Days of Christmas Day 1 comes from one of the greatest fitness role models I’ve ever admired Cathe Friedrich her no-nonsense style of teaching inspired me to be the instructor/trainer I am today! 

Grab your #12DaysOfChristmas Gifts on the inneractive FITCLUB YOU TUBE Playlist 



12 days of Christmas gift BONUS

Thanks indescribable




This year my family is celebrating Thanksgiving with bittersweet blessings.

After losing my father to cancer in April, my nephew in a horrible car accident in June & my niece’s cancer diagnosis; we find ourselves torn between being thankful and grieving.

What I’ve found, it’s the thankful prayers when it’s hardest to be thankful that opens our hearts to receive the comfort and grace of the Holy Spirit.

The song by #BigDaddyWeave “Overwhelmed” floods my soul today. It covers me to know that even in the grand plan of the Masters watch, He has considered the things that burden my heart.

Even in all of the chaos that we may be surrounded by (negativity, loss, grief, sorrow, fear, anger, bitterness, indifference); He is still in control.

Even when we may question ‘Where is God in all of this’ He shows up in little ways.

He has a way of changing the tide, like a family that comes closer together because of tragedy. Or a friend that just calls to check on you. Or the seemingly random thought of everything you didn’t get done in your day which shines a light on the fact that you were able to spend some unexpected quality time doing something you’ve been too busy to get done.

Today I challenge you to take in a deep breath and receive the fullness of thanks.

The reality of the blessing of that breath.

The possibility of that breath.

Be thankful.

Be blessed.

Be intentional.

What are you most thankful for this year?


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Finish what you started

This week’s Five Minute Friday prompt is DEAR.

If you don’t know what Five Minute Friday is, click here. Then set a timer for five minutes, and let’s write!

Ready? GO.

Dear finish. A year ago to the date…I had a plan.



Seek Him firstand all these things He’ll add to you.

Discipline. Focus on the FIRST not the things.

But knowing He literally was working on His plan (Jeremiah 29) kept my FOCUS & kept me in the fight.


I set about making my goals for 2014 and “where I wanted to go/be”; when distractions (like that joy thief called comparison) tried to get the best of me, when I adjusted my focus to be ANCHORED; He still reminded me, FIRST. Seek Him First.  I decided that nothing would separate me. Then came the nothing.

Nothing became everything I could imagine that tried it’s best to separate me.

Sickness. Death. Loss. Grief. Brokenness. Death. like clockwork they came, trying to befriend me. Still. I pressed to remain faithful to seek Him First. That was the focus. To seek HIM. His face, His hand, His grace. Seek Him. Seek Him. not even JUST His hand. Not even JUST His face. Not even JUST His grace. Even though in the midst of it all, I knew that in seeking Him I would also find all of those.

It is finished. That’s what I kept hearing. I kept hearing His voice. Seeking Him I found and heard His voice. Like the scriptures quote “A voice calling out to one in the wilderness” I heard because I was seeking.

In all of the seeking I even began to see things much clearer.

So much revelation of the scriptures I’d heard for years but even passed not as scripture but I honestly thought were something from one of Shakespeare’s poems.

For now we see through a glass darkly, but soon we will know. 

I sought the Lord. First. And He opened my eyes. Amazing Grace.

Dear Finish, I know what it means to seek. I know it means that I will find. I know that it means when the Lord says “it is finished” it’s not finished like done, it means it’s finished like Satan back off, I’m just gettin’ started with this one and she’s mine and she’s dangerous.

Dear Finish…oh death where is your sting!!!!!!!


Searching for brave


I have decided I don’t want to be beast mode or a badA …I’m just gonna be! And that has been a pretty amazing discovery!!

FOCUS: BRAVE Be brave. Think brave. Live brave. Respond brave.

We act based on what we believe not what we know. I woke up today with this word on my heart. So many friends are being brave even as I write this. I’ve prayed BRAVE PRAYERS!!! Brave in the losses, brave in fights, brave in the challenges, brave in the midst of being overwhelmed. BRAVE. What does that even mean? Are they full of that much more willpower & tenacity? Are the brave ones propelling forward because it’s just what they do?

Being brave doesn’t just happen. It’s a learned discipline that grows stronger with every opportunity we allow it to be released. Brave is the harvest of a seed of truth watered by Mercy, Grace & Love. Brave is mirrored by an inner strength we receive from Christ in exchange for doubt, rejection, fear, insecurity and uncertainty. His promise to finish what He started makes us brave. His promise to never leave us makes us brave. His promise to be our strength where we are at our weakest makes us brave. His Promise; THE PROMISE makes us brave. Pick up your sword. Fight brave soul, He has your back!!! Press on!!! I am praying big brave prayers for you! There’s bondage breaking, healing, comforting, strengthening BRAVE powers released in prayer!!!

But now, says the Lord — the one who created you, Jacob, the one who formed you, Israel: Don’t fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; when through the rivers, they won’t sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you won’t be scorched and flame won’t burn you. (‭Isaiah‬ ‭43‬:‭1-2‬ CEB)


Meditation & motivation

Just wanted you to know I’m praying for you today.

Praying that you realize you’re worth more than settling for second best. Praying that you see just how valuable you are.

Praying that you see your own reflection as an image of God Himself & in that you see all of the talents & gifts He placed in you.

Praying that you know you are more than the number on the scale.

Praying that you recognize that life is so much more than calories & crunches.

Praying that you realize that today is not yesterday nor is it tomorrow nor is it a sum of your mistakes, but it is in fact your greatest opportunity to become who God created you to be.

One simple declaration, “here I am Lord” puts you back on the right track moving forward.

One step toward God brings you closer to your destiny than a million steps toward achieving goals, dreams, hustles, hard work ever will. (Psalm 84)

Move. And keep movin. #getinneractive (Ephesians 3)

FOCUS: Which season is this?

Is it really winter? One day it was 85 degrees then all of a sudden it was 37 degrees. Then we all went shopping for winter coats only to be fooled by sunshine, blue skies, 70 degrees and bumble bees…in NOVEMBER and DECEMBER!

SERIOUSLY which season is this?

Has your life ever felt like that? Like you weren’t really sure where one season ends and another begins. Yet somehow they seem to mesh together tethering on the same thread of hope for a definitive change?

I was looking forward to the new season, even just a glimpse of the change that was familiar.

I caught it one day just as the sun came up. Behind a ground that was covered in frost and I was wearing a ‘cold weather coat’ but the forecast said there’s a chance of lots of sunshine today.


I carried on with my day and by the time I came back outside it was 85 degrees and no hint of this beautiful fall change was even there. Well, the trees were clearly changin colors but it didn’t “feel” like the change was there.

That’s life right? Every opportunity we get to notice the change, it could very well shift but it’s up to us to notice it and even when the noticeable familiarity isn’t there, we can still hold onto the evidence of the change. People may look at you and not see the process of your change. They may even watch your actions, the way you speak and even consider how you ‘handled’ a situation. They’re watching the season you’re in. They’re taking pictures of the identifiable familiarity of that season. Then they wait. They watch for the sudden shifts, even if they don’t see them immediately they wonder “HOW DOES SHE DO IT“.

What’s season are you in? What has your FOCUS this season?

Season of FLEXIBILITY & ENDURANCE: creating an opportunity to move the way you were created to move without breaking down and losing strength.

Fair enough, easy enough. Slight challenge but not to the point that I might give up. Oh but you just wait…

We are like clay jars in which this treasure is stored. The real power comes from God and not from us. We often suffer, but we are never crushed. Even when we don’t know what to do, we never give up. In times of trouble, God is with us, and when we are knocked down, we get up again. (‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭4‬:‭7-9‬ CEVUS06)


(graphic inspired by Kristin at Darwainian Fail)

I came across this picture from a fitness friend Kristen where she poured out her heart concerning her season of grief and it filled my heart with hope right smack dab in the season I was in. Praise God for the honest friends who aren’t afraid to share their weaknesses but also share their hope.

Well, it’s a new season, and a bit of change and a fresh breath of crispness is in the air!!! Mornings are much cooler and nights are much darker. That’s how you know it’s a new season.

It’s crazy how you make a declaration and suddenly you’re faced with the opportunity to uphold that declaration or fold and change your mind.

Originally, my goals for the past FEW month were flexibility and endurance. I decided that everyday I’d be diligent to use my time to harvest those seeds! Well almost immediately there it was, the opportunity to be flexible. THE OPPORTUNITY TO ENDURE. And what goes hand in hand with flexibility and endurance? Movement & Change.

Change will challenge you and challenge always always brings change. The key to the change is whether or not you’re willing to adjust your focus. Movement can seem daunting. I like to tell my Zumba folks, don’t dance, just move. Even if you’re the only one doing the ‘MOVE you choose’ just consider it your 15 seconds of fame and rock your solo! Maybe that’s the season you’re in right now. ROCK YOUR SOLO!!!

when you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. 

it’s to enjoy each step along the way.  -Dr. Wayne Dyer 


I think I’m in a season of movement awareness. A season of movement awareness fueled by HOPE; not just hope for the sake of hoping, not just aware to notice but consciously seeking what the promises of God have declared will be ours to hold and keep. Not just moving to get to a certain point but moving, fully aware and enjoying every step along the way.

As we finish out this year, I challenge you to take notice and begin asking yourself where you are. Ask yourself where is God in all of this. Ask yourself if you’re moving, aware and hoping. Ask yourself if you’re making the best yes.

Ask yourself “Am I giving a conscious ‘heart anchored in wisdom’ BEST YES concerning EVERYTHING?”

Every response, every thought, every action, every *reaction*, every word…

  • Am I saying yes just be included?
  • Am I saying yes just to feel needed?
  • Am I saying yes just to feel chosen?
  • Am I saying yes just to feel valued?
  • Am I saying yes when in the very next breath I’m nauseated at the scrambling of my schedule and overwhelming sense of *how am I gonna do that*…

Or am I saying yes with the assurance that I’ve preserved this time and space for a God appointed assignment (even if it’s just to be a listening ear for a friend)?

As we celebrate Christmas, the birth of our Savior Jesus Christ, we celebrate that He came to bring us a promise, but that’s not where we hope. We hope in the fact that He is risen; not just for us to say hallelujah but for us to walk in that victory. If death couldn’t hold Him down. The grave couldn’t keep Him out, knowing that same power and authority is in us who have received Him as our own. Our hope; no matter what the season; is to move forward fully award that NOTHING can separate us from Him and the purpose He has for our very own lives…

How much more would He do for you…

He won it all for you & me!

Life pretends to be urgent when we aren’t focused on Godly advise and wisdom. Text messages, email, meetings, you name it and they all command our RIGHT NOW attention and access.

In order to make #TheBestYes outcomes for tomorrow, we must be willing to heed the wisdom and instruction today.

Sometimes we need to make changes in our daily lives. Not big changes, little ones. But it’s the little ones that create a ripple effect of transformation.


This season of awareness wouldn’t be so special to me without the hope we have for our niece Ayanna. She is currently fighting a battle with neuroblastoma. But she doesn’t stop moving. She is so aware of the breath in her lungs, the opportunity she has everyday to dance, and the joy that Jesus has given her that she tries to make every bit of it contagious. She is YanniStrong. 

I’d love to show her how much we support her fight and would love to have you join her as well.  Consider this season to show some love. Visit the YanniStrong campaign to donate, share a message with her or share with your friends and family to support her! 


Ayanna was chosen to walk with LeBron James at the Big Stars Little Stars charity event in Cleveland Ohio


Princess Ayanna

FOCUS: Keep movin


What should I eat?
What should I wear?
Does this make me look fat?
Why wasn’t I invited?
Who does that?
What’s wrong with her?
What’s wrong with me?
Don’t they know who I am?
I’m not fast enough, thin enough, strong enough, tall enough…

Crazy conversations with ourselves make us think we should do more, be more, have more. Maybe we should just be.

FOCUS: Pay attention. Seems simple enough right? My daughter is quick to remind me “but you’re not really even listening to me mommy”… ( #heartdrop )

Multitasking makes us feel productive. Full calendars make us feel important. Likes & followers make us feel; well, liked & followed #leaders

But lately I’ve seriously been asking myself, where is all this taking me? Where are we so anxious to get to? (Mark 8:36)

What will you gain, if you own the whole world but destroy yourself? (‭Mark‬ ‭8‬:‭36‬ CEVUS06)

Are we so pressed to be the most of anything & everything that we’re not even sure who we are especially if all of this went away?

Really, when was the last time you stopped to ask yourself where all of this is taking you?

>She Reads Truth #OpenYourBible has tugged my heart asking me the hard questions like what do you really believe & where is the proof of God’s word in your life?

Not proof for people but proof for process.

Process of God’s promise concerning His influence in my life.

First proof was leading me to #TheBestYes {The one who obeys God’s instruction for today will develop a keen awareness of His direction for tomorrow} In my coming & going, I pray my day can begin, pause and end wherever The Lord’s voice has instructed me. Even, when I’ve made a wrong turn. (Isaiah 30:21) (The Best Yes Ch. 1)

This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” (‭Joshua‬ ‭1‬:‭8-9‬ ESV)
#beINTENTIONAL #beFREE #focus #getinneractive

Have you been questioning how in the world you’re suppose to keep movin? Join us in November at Refresh Summit when we’ll take some time to give ourselves permission to just be! Be friends, be faith filled, be movin, be laughin, be content with who God is and who He created us to BE!

Register today for Refresh Summit