How to unlearn old habits


We are afraid of big dreams because we are afraid of ourselves.

We are afraid of greatness because we are afraid of our arrogance.

And yet Jesus said of us, “Whoever believes in me… they will do even greater things than these” (John 14:12)

We need to quit apologizing for using our gifts and start apologizing for NOT using them. – Jennie Allen #Restless


So much of our internal battles to care for ourselves; spirit, soul and body; is less about learning new things and so much more about unlearning old habits.


Find an opportunity of unlearning

Can we talk about this  sneaky form of competition that’s been lurking around and we seem to just keep living with it?  
It’s called pride.
It’s called I want what she’s got.
It’s called there’s no way I could possibly qualify or be good enough.
It’s called I can’t receive (don’t want to hear) anything from her because she has what I should have and that’s not fair for me to have to humble myself and listen to her.
It’s called satan couldn’t and wasn’t so he wants to see to it that you don’t and aren’t.
It’s called a giant, and it must fall.
Oh friends, we have two options; either agree with the Truth that God; in all of His enoughness; has created us in His image with gifts that are too many to name and therefore it’s not possible for the abundance to run out. OR we fold our arms, stump our feet and throw a pride/pity party in the name of satan’s anthem – aka defeat.
FIRST – His perfect love removes all fear. Jealousy, doubt, envy, pride, and rejection are all fear based reactions.  They cause us to either rise up in our own pride and ability and begin to strut our peacock tails or on the reverse we shut down, draw back and turtle.
SECOND – Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 1 Corinthians 13
For the word of the God is living and effective and sharper than any double edged sword, penetrating as far as the separation of soul and spirit, joints and marrow. It is able to judge the ideas and thoughts of the heart. Hebrews 4:12
Find a rhythm to move to
Be available to the community God has placed you in. Be your truest self (flaws and all) and this will allow the light of Christ that is in to shine. Even when you think it’s not very bright, the tiniest light breaks darkness; and those who feel like they’re wandering and grasping for hope will find your light; the Light He placed in you. When they find it, be ready with an answer of the hope that keeps you anchored.


Find a tribe to help you establish commitments

I teamed up with some of my faith and fitness sisters for a month long challenge called Resolution Recommit. Each week there’s a new theme and throughout the week we’re encouraged with devotionals, workouts, nutrition and meal advise and a sweet little community.

This past week, one of the devotionals included the message of beauty. It struck a chord, well more like a nerve.

Oh yall. It was loaded with permission.

Permission to be you and enjoy the you that God created. She spoke about how much she whole-heartedly just loves fashion and make up and expressing herself through art and music and she’s learned to not apologize for any of that.

Friends, I think sometimes we get tripped up and lost in translation and assume that God says we aren’t to be concerned with the outward appearance but ONLY our inner selves.

But NO. He doesn’t say that.

Jesus DOES remind us that yes we shouldn’t be so impressed with the outside of the cup if/when the inside is filthy but we are also reminded that our bodies are a temple of the Holy Spirit, where He lives and I’m not sure He would want to live in a beat up dilapidated shack.

We GET TO take care of these bodies. We are HIS BODY, HIS HANDS, HIS FEET, His representation on this earth. I would think it’s worth us considering it a high priority to take care of the body He let us borrow to do His work.

I don’t know about you, but on both sides of the self-care coin was a battle of competition. The one that said I was too much and the other one that says I wasn’t enough.

I’m still allowing God to work out this thing in me as I gut my closets of failed attempts to be someone I’m actually not.

Trends, idols, icons, inspirations, fears, pressures, you name it and they had won over both my heart and my budget and I tried for years to figure out what I was suppose to look like and not draw attention to. I fought the battle of the skinny jeans and the flat abs and the J-Lo booty and well, good genes won and reminded me that some things are suppose to be there and others; well Jesus.

Psalm 19:7-9New Living Translation (NLT)

 The instructions of the Lord are perfect, reviving the soul. The decrees of the Lord are trustworthy, making wise the simple.  The commandments of the Lord are right, bringing joy to the heart. The commands of the Lord are clear, giving insight for living.

Be you tea bag



The best way to battle the lies of competition – which robs you of pretty much everything in your original design; is to sit with yourself and God and find a community of friends who will speak the truth in love over you. Be available to the community God has placed you in. 1 Peter 5:6 reminds us to be content with who you are, and don’t put on airs. God’s strong hand is on you; he’ll promote you at the right time. Live carefree before God; he is most careful with you.

Be your truest self (flaws and all) and this will allow the light of Christ that is in to shine. Even when you think it’s not very bright, the tiniest light breaks darkness; and those who feel like they’re wandering and grasping for hope will find your light; the Light He placed in you. When they find it, be ready with an answer of the hope that keeps you anchored.

Find the best of you

I hope you’ll consider being a part of our FEBRUARY challenge as we take an active approach toward “lovin’ the best of me and losin’ the rest of me.”

Our anchor ⚓️ verse is Isaiah 61:3 to restore beauty, joy, praise & righteousness!! 💪🏾 

Above all else, guard your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life (it IS the wellspring of life). (Prov 4:23)

As a woman thinks in her heart so is she (Prov 23:7)

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones (Prov 17:23)

Coming Soon!!! NEW Classes – including an online training FITCAMP community, Our next Weigh Less to Feed More group REGISTER HERE FOR the February Challenge


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Oh friends, this is something God has really been speaking to me and I can’t wait to dive into these truths and restore us back to the place where He designed us! I hope to see you in the February FOCUS!

Speak – Even if your voice is trembling
Please – You’ve been quiet for so long
Believe – It’ll be worth the risk you’re taking

SOURCE: Amanda Cook – The Voyage Lyrics | MetroLyrics


Wait for the Lord, be strong, and let your heart take courage Psalm 27:14

Thanks indescribable




This year my family is celebrating Thanksgiving with bittersweet blessings.

After losing my father to cancer in April, my nephew in a horrible car accident in June & my niece’s cancer diagnosis; we find ourselves torn between being thankful and grieving.

What I’ve found, it’s the thankful prayers when it’s hardest to be thankful that opens our hearts to receive the comfort and grace of the Holy Spirit.

The song by #BigDaddyWeave “Overwhelmed” floods my soul today. It covers me to know that even in the grand plan of the Masters watch, He has considered the things that burden my heart.

Even in all of the chaos that we may be surrounded by (negativity, loss, grief, sorrow, fear, anger, bitterness, indifference); He is still in control.

Even when we may question ‘Where is God in all of this’ He shows up in little ways.

He has a way of changing the tide, like a family that comes closer together because of tragedy. Or a friend that just calls to check on you. Or the seemingly random thought of everything you didn’t get done in your day which shines a light on the fact that you were able to spend some unexpected quality time doing something you’ve been too busy to get done.

Today I challenge you to take in a deep breath and receive the fullness of thanks.

The reality of the blessing of that breath.

The possibility of that breath.

Be thankful.

Be blessed.

Be intentional.

What are you most thankful for this year?


Nutrition Month: Too much salt

It takes humility to ask for help.

Especially when you’re the one giving it out. Especially when you give and give and give. Especially, if it feels like everyone takes yet no one receives. Especially when pride & comparison have a grip on you.

Are you trackin’ with me on this one?

There’s a difference between taking and receiving.

Do me a quick favor:

Whatever you’re doing right now take just a second, open your hands palm side up.

It’s vulnerable. That’s humility.

If you had something in your hand you either had to put it down. If you were holding onto something you had to let it go.

That’s vulnerable. That’s risky. That’s life, that’s where God wants us.


When we were younger we used a term to describe when you were feeling vulnerable, even jaded or disrespected or like someone took something from you or  took a jab at your gut.

We’d say that person was salty.

Like you were slightly wounded, as if someone threw salt in the wound and left you there to deal with the pain.

Big or small.

I’ll put it in context.

Suppose you were really talented at something. You couldn’t wait to use that gift, especially now that you’re learning to appreciate it and use it well.  Suddenly, you find out someone was chosen to do something you were considering or even asked to do.  The sting of being overlooked and quite possibly; jealousy, burns deep in your gut. That’s salty.

I hope that makes sense.


Whenever I hear the words “Jesus called us to be salt & light” I can’t help but reference this. Especially in perspective of the scripture Matthew 5:13.

We are called to be salt & light to the world, but if the salt loses it’s savor, it’s no good; in fact it’s deadly.

We should be in the world, full of flavor, sprinkling the love of Christ on everyone we pass; not contaminating or leaving a bad taste in the mouths of people we are trying to influence to Christ.

I  remember that taste. It was bitter. It was attached to several disappointments. I wanted to wash that taste out of my mouth and never have anything to do with it.

It’s like adding too much salt to the food on the plate. You spit it out. Too much salt in our daily diets can result in high blood pressure, bloating, heart issues and dehydration (excessive unquenchable thirst)…hmmm I certainly see a spiritual connection here.

It wasn’t until someone; who I believe had experienced that same bitterness; spoke to me with sweet words and a tenderized heart that I actually found a desire to listen. I don’t doubt for one minute that a bit of humility had to take place before I was ready to hear what they had to say. Looking back, I’m certain it was more despair than humility that opened my ears. The bible says let those who have ears to hear, hear.

It’s a heart issue.

Here’s the hope we can hold onto God’s grace opens doors for second chances;  “God’s gifts and his call can never be withdrawn.” (Romans 11:29) & “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.”

But you see, God gives us the opportunity to humble ourselves, and at that very moment we cry out “Lord I don’t know what to do”, He brings someone along our path to help us. Allow God to relieve some of the stress, tension and high blood pressure you’re trying to just deal with. 

Nine times out of ten, the people He sends our way have been where we are. They understand the bitter/sour/burnt taste that makes us nauseous. They know that we’ve been around the proverbial mountain a million times and can’t figure out how to move it or get up it. (Mark 11:23)

Whether you’re the one crying out for help or you’re the one being sent to help, let go and let God do what He does best. I heard someone say “GOD IS REALLY GOOD AT WHAT HE DOES”…Let Him do it!

FOCUS on what’s happening in everything you do and say and trust that He’s always in control.

If God has placed you on the path of someone to help them in their journey, trust that He’s given you all the necessary training to help them.  When you open your mouth, He’ll fill it with perfectly flavored words! Not too much salt.

If you’re confused about where God wants you to go to get help or help someone know that God may put you in the least place you’d expect.

He says “I want you smack dab in the middle of the world, just not of it” (Romans)

I think Christine Cain says it much better!

‘You cannot change a world you are not in, likewise you cannot change a world that you are of the same substance”!

Be encouraged.

Life gets sticky.

Life gets salty.

Life gets dirty & muddy.

It’s in the mud that we recognize the value & worth of being washed & cleansed!

This calling to ‘be something great, to dream bigger, to serve others’  is much greater than we even give recognition.

We need to ALWAYS be willing to know where we are & why we are!

1 Peter 5:6-7 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Matthew 5:6 Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. (the video is only 15 minutes)

Stay humble.

It keeps your heart open to receive instead of always opening your hand to take. (1 Kings 17)

Keep your heart pumpin’, spirit movin’ & get inneractive. It all comes back to love.

My prayer today is that you would allow the Lord to teach you how, when, why, what, where, even who. This song by Misty Edwards will bless you as you open your heart and allow God to speak to whatever your questions are.

Misty Edwards “I Love Your Ways”


FOCUS: The power of freedom. Plus a Core Power Fit Kit Giveaway

What makes you feel powerful? For me, I feel most powerful when I’m focused and I know what’s been made available to me and I know that I’ve taken full advantage of it!


Let me share something with you.

If you’ve heard this story before forgive me, it was too good not to retell!!

It goes something like this.

One afternoon a little girl was out shopping with her mother, when they approached the checkout counter the little girl noticed a jar of candy with a sign that said FREE. The kind gentleman behind the counter noticed the little girl admiring the candy jar; smiled at her and said “go ahead, you can have some”.

But the little girl hesitated and only looked away. As her mother completed her order the little girl would glance at her mother and back at the jar and back at her mother and back at the jar contemplating how awesome this candy must be. Again the gentleman obliged ” it’s okay you can have some”, he even validated with the mother that it was indeed okay. The mother smiled and said “yes honey it’s okay you can have some”. Still the little girl stared at the jar, back at the gentleman and finally down to the floor. As the mother collected her purchases and belongings and was ready to head out the door, The gentleman said here allow me.

He proceeded to open the candy jar, reached in and pulled out what seemed like a years worth of candy; to a child’s eyes. Grateful, the child opened both hands to try to hold all the gentleman had given her. With wide eyes and a grin cheek to cheek she chimed “oh my gosh thank you sooo much whoa”!

Almost skipping out of the store the daughter could barely contain her excitement. Her mother looked down at her and smiled and said “honey why didn’t you take the candy when the gentleman offered it the first time?”

With Bright eyes and a cheesy grin the little girl explained “mother did you see how much bigger one of his hands were than my tiny hand? Look at how much he grabbed, I needed both of my hands to hold all of this!”

Sometimes we get impatient and we want to reach out and grab things for ourselves. But God reminds us I know the plans I have for you. His plans don’t include anything that would stunt our growth spiritually, physically emotionally financially or relational. His plans include freedom! There’s tremendous power in that freedom!

What exactly is freedom?

  • the state of being physically unrestricted and able to move easily. –POWER
  • the state of not being imprisoned or enslaved. –POWER
  • the state of not being subject to or affected by (a particular undesirable thing). –POWER
  • the power of self-determination attributed to the will; the quality of being independent of fate or necessity. –POWER

liberté – libertad – libertà

I’m in LOVE with this! I mean really, knowing that you have the power to exchange your doubt for freedom! Who doesn’t want that!!! So our next challenge FOCUS is FREEDOM!


Make sure you’re signed up & registered to receive email updates. We’ll break free from the stuff that’s held us captive! I want to see you living free, keepin’ your heart pumpin and spirit movin’!

Are you ready to experience freedom?!?!

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For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me. I will be found by you,” says the Lord. “I will end your captivity and restore your fortunes. I will gather you out of the nations where I sent you and will bring you home again to your own land.” (Jeremiah 29:11-14 NLT)

FREEDOM from anything that holds us captive!! Freedom from past mistakes, regrets, shame, guilt, trying to measure up, acceptance, weight issues, body image issues, food issues. No more captivity!!! WHOOOOO SHINE SWEET FREEDOM! That’s pure power!!!!


When you recognize and accept that power, you realize it was in you all along! A fire is reignited and the flames burn even stronger!

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This Christmas…Dear Mom

Dear Mom, {a Christmas blessing to my mom}

So I was listening to “Mary Did You Know” by Cee Lo Green {a great music vocalist that you might not understand right away); I realized that most of us don’t know the true plan God has for our children.

I wonder, mom, did you know who I’d become? Did you know who you were when you birthed me into this world?

Mom do you think that we as mothers, know the ultimate gift that’s been given to us to become mothers? Or does that come later in life, much later, after the countless times of wondering if God picked the right woman for the job? Just wondering…

Whether we’ve birthed our own children, which mommy I have no idea how you did it 9 times and could even consider telling me that the bigger the baby the easier it would be…yeah NOT TRUE…whether we’ve fostered children, adopted or earned the title of ‘like-a-mother” it’s truly a gift that’s worth re-gifting.

I watch my children, particularly my daughter and I get a knot in my throat realizing that I have an awesome opportunity to re-gift the wonderful memories you shared with me.

The other day my daughter said she wished that she could have met you mommy,  just so she could have baked cookies with you. I almost lost it. My daughter never knew you. She only knows what I share with her.

In the spirit of Christmas and all the season has to offer, if I could have just one more moment with you mommy, I would say THANK YOU for showing me through your own example what compassion is, what giving unselfishly looks like and what Donnie Hathaway meant when you sang along with him these words…

And this Christmas will be, a very special Christmas for me”

When we had nothing, you made it seem as if we had everything, because we had each other and we had the hope of Christ.

When you saw someone else who had nothing, you always felt as if we still had enough to share with them. When it looked like we were down to our last, you continued to remind us that God always makes a way out of no way.

My fondest memory of Christmas and the man in the red suit has to be when I was around 9 years old when we thought we weren’t having Christmas because we just didn’t have any money. I remember there was a knock on the door. As you opened the door I peaked around the corner, saw a red jacket and a box of toys. I heard you crying saying “God Bless You, God Bless You, oh my Lord God Bless You..Merry Christmas”… I was convinced it WAS Santa himself.

It wasn’t until later in life when I discovered that red jacket was a Salvation Army worker delivering Christmas toys and canned goods to our family.

This Christmas I wish more than ever I could say to you “God Bless you, God Bless You, oh my Lord God Bless You…Merry Christmas”.

I love you mommy, I miss you more than you know. I am blessed knowing that you showed me what THIS CHRISTMAS means.

{R.I.P. Tanya “SWEETIE” Turpin-Culler 2/6/46-2/05}

I pray you would find the true hope & gift this Christmas season was meant to bring.