How to unlearn old habits


We are afraid of big dreams because we are afraid of ourselves.

We are afraid of greatness because we are afraid of our arrogance.

And yet Jesus said of us, “Whoever believes in me… they will do even greater things than these” (John 14:12)

We need to quit apologizing for using our gifts and start apologizing for NOT using them. – Jennie Allen #Restless


So much of our internal battles to care for ourselves; spirit, soul and body; is less about learning new things and so much more about unlearning old habits.


Find an opportunity of unlearning

Can we talk about this  sneaky form of competition that’s been lurking around and we seem to just keep living with it?  
It’s called pride.
It’s called I want what she’s got.
It’s called there’s no way I could possibly qualify or be good enough.
It’s called I can’t receive (don’t want to hear) anything from her because she has what I should have and that’s not fair for me to have to humble myself and listen to her.
It’s called satan couldn’t and wasn’t so he wants to see to it that you don’t and aren’t.
It’s called a giant, and it must fall.
Oh friends, we have two options; either agree with the Truth that God; in all of His enoughness; has created us in His image with gifts that are too many to name and therefore it’s not possible for the abundance to run out. OR we fold our arms, stump our feet and throw a pride/pity party in the name of satan’s anthem – aka defeat.
FIRST – His perfect love removes all fear. Jealousy, doubt, envy, pride, and rejection are all fear based reactions.  They cause us to either rise up in our own pride and ability and begin to strut our peacock tails or on the reverse we shut down, draw back and turtle.
SECOND – Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 1 Corinthians 13
For the word of the God is living and effective and sharper than any double edged sword, penetrating as far as the separation of soul and spirit, joints and marrow. It is able to judge the ideas and thoughts of the heart. Hebrews 4:12
Find a rhythm to move to
Be available to the community God has placed you in. Be your truest self (flaws and all) and this will allow the light of Christ that is in to shine. Even when you think it’s not very bright, the tiniest light breaks darkness; and those who feel like they’re wandering and grasping for hope will find your light; the Light He placed in you. When they find it, be ready with an answer of the hope that keeps you anchored.


Find a tribe to help you establish commitments

I teamed up with some of my faith and fitness sisters for a month long challenge called Resolution Recommit. Each week there’s a new theme and throughout the week we’re encouraged with devotionals, workouts, nutrition and meal advise and a sweet little community.

This past week, one of the devotionals included the message of beauty. It struck a chord, well more like a nerve.

Oh yall. It was loaded with permission.

Permission to be you and enjoy the you that God created. She spoke about how much she whole-heartedly just loves fashion and make up and expressing herself through art and music and she’s learned to not apologize for any of that.

Friends, I think sometimes we get tripped up and lost in translation and assume that God says we aren’t to be concerned with the outward appearance but ONLY our inner selves.

But NO. He doesn’t say that.

Jesus DOES remind us that yes we shouldn’t be so impressed with the outside of the cup if/when the inside is filthy but we are also reminded that our bodies are a temple of the Holy Spirit, where He lives and I’m not sure He would want to live in a beat up dilapidated shack.

We GET TO take care of these bodies. We are HIS BODY, HIS HANDS, HIS FEET, His representation on this earth. I would think it’s worth us considering it a high priority to take care of the body He let us borrow to do His work.

I don’t know about you, but on both sides of the self-care coin was a battle of competition. The one that said I was too much and the other one that says I wasn’t enough.

I’m still allowing God to work out this thing in me as I gut my closets of failed attempts to be someone I’m actually not.

Trends, idols, icons, inspirations, fears, pressures, you name it and they had won over both my heart and my budget and I tried for years to figure out what I was suppose to look like and not draw attention to. I fought the battle of the skinny jeans and the flat abs and the J-Lo booty and well, good genes won and reminded me that some things are suppose to be there and others; well Jesus.

Psalm 19:7-9New Living Translation (NLT)

 The instructions of the Lord are perfect, reviving the soul. The decrees of the Lord are trustworthy, making wise the simple.  The commandments of the Lord are right, bringing joy to the heart. The commands of the Lord are clear, giving insight for living.

Be you tea bag



The best way to battle the lies of competition – which robs you of pretty much everything in your original design; is to sit with yourself and God and find a community of friends who will speak the truth in love over you. Be available to the community God has placed you in. 1 Peter 5:6 reminds us to be content with who you are, and don’t put on airs. God’s strong hand is on you; he’ll promote you at the right time. Live carefree before God; he is most careful with you.

Be your truest self (flaws and all) and this will allow the light of Christ that is in to shine. Even when you think it’s not very bright, the tiniest light breaks darkness; and those who feel like they’re wandering and grasping for hope will find your light; the Light He placed in you. When they find it, be ready with an answer of the hope that keeps you anchored.

Find the best of you

I hope you’ll consider being a part of our FEBRUARY challenge as we take an active approach toward “lovin’ the best of me and losin’ the rest of me.”

Our anchor ⚓️ verse is Isaiah 61:3 to restore beauty, joy, praise & righteousness!! 💪🏾 

Above all else, guard your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life (it IS the wellspring of life). (Prov 4:23)

As a woman thinks in her heart so is she (Prov 23:7)

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones (Prov 17:23)

Coming Soon!!! NEW Classes – including an online training FITCAMP community, Our next Weigh Less to Feed More group REGISTER HERE FOR the February Challenge


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Oh friends, this is something God has really been speaking to me and I can’t wait to dive into these truths and restore us back to the place where He designed us! I hope to see you in the February FOCUS!

Speak – Even if your voice is trembling
Please – You’ve been quiet for so long
Believe – It’ll be worth the risk you’re taking

SOURCE: Amanda Cook – The Voyage Lyrics | MetroLyrics


Wait for the Lord, be strong, and let your heart take courage Psalm 27:14

MAY I…Do something new

And to get from where you are, there must first be a desire to leave – Beth Moore

Mother May I.

Do y’all remember that game?
Here’s the gist of it:

One person (it could be Mom) stands facing away from a line of kids.
She then chooses a child (at random, or in order), and announces a direction. These follow a pattern, such as, “Brian, you may take ‘ x’ giant/regular/baby steps forward/backward.”

The child responds with “Mother may I?”

Mom then states “Yes” or “No”, depending on her whim, and the child complies.

If the child forgets to ask “Mother may I?” he/she goes back to the starting line. First one to touch Mother wins.

As I was thinking of our May challenge, I thought of this game.

I thought about how we should ask God for the things we want to move forward on.

This year our Pastor charged us with this year being the year to Pursue, Recover and Restore. So as we were all setting out goals for the year, we were/are being challenged with whether or not we’ve asked the Lord “shall I pursue” (1 Samuel 30). How often have we made these huge goals but never consulted with Him to see if it’s even in His plan for us. And I don’t know about y’all but I don’t want to miss a thing He has for me.

But here’s the thing, when we ask God “Father May I” we need to be willing to listen for His response and whatever instructions or recommendations He gives us. And, He might say no. OR, His answer for us might be that we should pursue but requires further instructions that look nothing like what we thought.

Typically His ways are not ours (Isaiah 55:8-9); But the blessing in all of this is that His response is NEVER depending on His whim, but ALWAYS depending on what’s best for us.

So this year, I’ve done some asking. And what He gave me was “HELP THE ONES WHO WANT THE HELP”.

SO, This month I’m asking your permission to help you get better.

All I’m asking you to do is let me know what you need and together, we’ll ask God for His instruction.

Why am I asking?

Because I don’t ever want to force anything on you. And I can’t help someone that hasn’t asked me to help them. I don’t ever want to make you think you absolutely have to do what I’m suggesting.


I may have very well been where you were at some point. Maybe not exactly, but I can promise you this. I’ve been in the pit, the ditch, the dumps and in the darkness. And I’ve also see what it feels like to know freedom. I also know what it feels like to know you’re accepted. I also know what it feels like to look in the mirror and with confidence see your own reflection and not see your mistakes but see the beautiful, wonderfully made woman God created you to be!

What a wonderful God we have—he is the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the source of every mercy, and the one who so wonderfully comforts and strengthens us in our hardships and trials. And why does he do this? So that when others are troubled, needing our sympathy and encouragement, we can pass on to them this same help and comfort God has given us. You can be sure that the more we undergo sufferings for Christ, the more he will shower us with his comfort and encouragement. 2 Corinthians 1:3-5

So, You’re here. And that could mean that you want what’s being offered. And all I can do is offer it. But if you give me permission. Ohhhh sister (or brother), that’s a whole new transformation waitin’ to happen.

Sound like a plan?

This month our focus is on that.

The transformation.

The metamorphosis if you will. Kinda like the metamorphosis of the butterfly.

The process of becoming something you had no idea you could be.



This month. Let’s do a new thing. I’ll be sharing a new resource with you everyday!

Spirit, soul and body I want us to feel renewed. I want to see a glow in you that I’ve never seen. And if you’re on social media I want to see YOU!!! Take pictures, use the hashtag #GrowAndGlow Follow us on Instagram at @inneractivefit

Ok, today’s resource is Simple Green Smoothies.

Why? Well because Green makes me happy. Green says GO! Green says NEW, Growth and Life! Green reminds me that seasons change. Green says there’s hope. Green says that even when it looked like nothing was happening in that seed, God had a plan. Simple Green Smoothies is a free website loaded with fresh recipes for green smoothies. Everything your palate can imagine. So there ya go! GO GREEN!

And by the way…Here’s another new thing, the change you’ll experience won’t be finding a new you, it’ll be finding the you that was there the entire time but was hidden under all that stuff! Keep the wild in you friend! God needs that!!! Let’s take this adventure! Yes you are going to see me using this hashtag alot #KeepTheWildInyou because I’m silly giddy crazy excited about being chosen to join the team of Maidservant of Encouragement ambassadors at MOE Apparel & Yoga!!!!

Y’all God is ready to do a NEW THING are you ready for the change? God is asking permission, May I do something new? What’s your response?

-keep your heart pumpin, spirit movin and anchor your focus!



You are free to quit, but then finish.

Finish the work.

That thing you started.

Finish it.

I heard the song Day 1 by Matthew West a few weeks ago and it challenged me.

It checked my gut about all the reasons I’ve quit and all the reasons excuses I haven’t finished the stuff I started.

How many ideas, fitness plans, diets, bible studies have we started but never finished?

Matthew West Day 1

I wish I wasn’t wishing anymore, I wish I could remember nobody’s keeping score // I’m tired of throwing pennies in the well, I gotta do something, here goes nothing. // Well every single day your Grace reminds me, that my best days are not behind me, wherever my yesterday may find me, well I don’t have to stay there. See my hourglass is upside down, my someday soon is here and now the clock is tickin and I’m so tired of missing out. It’s day one and here comes the sun. Every morning, every morning mercies new. Starting over now.

We’ve locked it in our brains to never quit.

But what if quitting is the very thing you need to do.

What if quitting moves you away from the mindset of victim to victorious.
What if quitting moves you away from the mindset of fear to faith.
What if quitting moves you away from thinking you can’t to being courageous.
What if quitting makes you realize that you are free to start over.

What if quitting allows you the freedom to live in Grace and grace gives you the strength you need to finish YOUR RACE.

Quit quitting and start finishing.

(Galatians 5 – The Living Bible)

Christ has set us free to live a free life. So take your stand! Never again let anyone put a harness of slavery on you.

You were getting along so well. Who has interfered with you to hold you back from following the truth? It certainly isn’t God who has done it, for he is the one who has called you to freedom in Christ. But it takes only one wrong person among you to infect all the others.

I am trusting the Lord to bring you back to believing as I do about these things. God will deal with that person, whoever he is, who has been troubling and confusing you.

What have you quit that you need to finish?

Lord lead us in the direction that gives us the strength to finish what we started. Help us to see that your plans for us don’t include our destruction but everything for our good and your glory. Help us to tune out the voices that easily get us tripped up and steer us away from your instructions. Whether it’s taking care of my body, my family or my talents & ideas, help me finish. Thank you Lord for being faithful to finish what you started in me. In Jesus name, Amen

Feel the music, share truth & rewrite the rules



 Feel the music

This is one of my Zumba heros! She’s 80-somethin’ years old, belongs to a motor cycle gang and takes tap dancing in addition to Zumba! And boy does she have moves. She comes to Zumba with her daughter who’s in her 60’s who plays the drums and drives an 18 wheeler! I mean talk about grabbing life and enjoying the ride.

She decided to choose joy. She makes me happy when I see her dance!

When I dance, it’s like moving to the joy I choose. Dance has become an expression of a deep confession I can’t put into words.

dI feel the music deep down in my soul. It makes me happy! Yes I will clap along cuz I feel like happiness is a truth!

I’ll wait while you get your dance on!

Could you imagine life without music? Ugg talk about blah!

What’s your favorite happy song? The one that just makes you ooze with joy?

If you had to give that song a color what color would it be?

Now imagine your life without that color? How does that make you feel?

Music can color our lives. The lyrics sort of paint a picture.

Music is the language of our soul.

I came across this video the other day and it just made me so happy I couldn’t even try to stop smiling.

Get your happy on!

Live in color

“Colors are the smiles of nature” – unknown


I’m so glad my life & wardrobe was delivered from blah! Life is better in color. I laugh because my fitness laundry resembles that of a crayon box explosion. I rarely share this story because very few people understand it. But here’s an opportunity because it’s bubbling up inside of me so I feel like somebody needs it.


My Truth

Several years ago I was restored from a wardrobe of brown, grey and black. Oh wait, no there was blue. Yes there was definitely navy blue. And that was the extent of my wardrobe. Every shirt, every pair of pants, every jacket, shoe and boot. Even my swimsuits were black (that was a whole other issue of freedom & confidence). I was comfortable in my dark clothing, yet I was extremely uncomfortable in my own skin.

It took lots of self assessments, spending time recognizing that all of the promises in the bible of forgiveness and restoration included me. It took a ton of letting go of my past, letting go of rejections, disappointment and resentment. I knew that God was doing something in me, that there was a huge purge and I could feel my shoulders pull back, my head began to lift higher and every muscle in my face started to take on a different structure. I never really said much to anyone concerning it I just slowly started adding color to my closet. I honestly think it was wearing the tropical colors in Zumba that started to pry me out of that shell.

But actually, it wasn’t until a friend asked me if I had grown taller that I realized something really did happen. She said she could see a visible difference that happened in me. She noticed I walked taller, I danced more freely and I was comfortable in my environments.

I cried later that night because that had been my prayer. I prayed for the shackles to come off so I could just dance! I believe I had entangled myself into a box of rules that I needed to look, act, speak, dance and even smile a certain way.

I wanted freedom and that wasn’t freedom.

I wanted to be free to move.

I wanted to be free to find my own fitness.

I wanted to be free to dance and be proud of my dance. I wanted to find my own fitness.

Finding my own ‘fitness’ meant standing face to face with the reality that maybe, just maybe, I was trying to live someone else’s idea of who I should be, or possibly living a life that I THOUGHT someone else expected me to live. The torture & defeat in both situations is in itself disappointment; attached to not being able to live up to what you think they think you should be. Talk about a tangled web of deception there.

The stress of trying to measure up, trying to figure out if you’re enough, trying to check your every move, every decision and everyTHING to see if it’s just like the ideal person (as distorted as that might be) you find yourself giving nearly 110% of who you are trying to be something & someone you were never intended to be.

That’s not freedom at all. That’s pure bondage. That’s living in a dark pit of deception.

But God doesn’t want us there. Praise God that His Mercy shows up even in the darkness and His light quiets the chaos.

He shines His light on us, not on the places we feel are inadequate but on the things He has done. How He created us, the gifts, the talents, the uniqueness in our creation. He wants us to see who we really are. He wants us to see how specifically He made us, no mistakes, no flaws just wonderful!

Spirit. Soul. Body. -wonderfully made

13 Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out; you formed me in my mother’s womb.

14 I thank you, High God – you’re breathtaking! Body and soul, I am marvelously made! I worship in adoration – what a creation!

15 You know me inside and out, you know every bone in my body; You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit, how I was sculpted from nothing into something.

16 Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth; all the stages of my life were spread out before you, The days of my life all prepared before I’d even lived one day.

Strength & Courage! Don’t be timid; don’t get discouraged.

God, your God is with you every step you take. -(Joshua 1 Message Version)



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God wants to rewrite your story. It starts on your heart. He wants to get your heart pumpin’ & get your spirit movin’ and cause you to get inneractive (Ephesians 3:16-22) reshaping you from the inside out. He’s rewriting the rules in your life!


Fitness isn’t what you do, it’s who you’re becoming!(TM)

Who made the rules?

Tell us for a chance to win  Reebok tank!

Fit, strong and healthy comes in every shape and size! When I say #getinneractive I’m simply telling you to find your best FIT!

inneractive FITCLUB is determined to help you rewrite your story & live your personal best. Let’s get your heart pumpin & spirit movin! We’re rewriting the rules WITH you not FOR you!

Here’s your chance to tell us how you’re rewriting your fitness rules.



(here’s the official entry for the tank-GOOD LUCK)


Last but not least, time for a girls get-away!!!

Gather up your friends and let’s head to the beautiful retreats of the Southern California Redlands!

I’ve teamed up with the ladies at Refresh Summit to breathe new life into the healthy goals of every woman! I’d love to have you join me in Southern California for a refreshing faith, fitness and food retreat! An opportunity to breath, relax, restore and refresh!

Every day you’ll move different from the day before.

Every day you’ll get an opportunity to break away from your comfort zone.

Every day you become a better, stronger, more confident YOU!

Feel the music.

Find YOUR fit-ness.

Rewrite the rules!  

Get your heart pumpin’, spirit movin’ & get inneractive!

Ephesians 3: My response is to get down on my knees before the Father, this magnificent Father who parcels out all heaven and earth. I ask him to strengthen you by his Spirit—not a brute strength but a glorious inner strength—that Christ will live in you as you open the door and invite him in. And I ask him that with both feet planted firmly on love, you’ll be able to take in with all followers of Jesus the extravagant dimensions of Christ’s love. Reach out and experience the breadth! Test its length! Plumb the depths! Rise to the heights! Live full lives, full in the fullness of God.

God can do anything, you know—far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! He does it not by pushing us around but by working within us, his Spirit deeply and gently within us.

Glory to God in the church!
Glory to God in the Messiah, in Jesus!


What wings are to a bird, and a sails to a ship; so is prayer to the soul;

– Corrie Ten Boom

Prayer is like a workout for your soul (SOUL: your mind, your will, your imagination, your emotions), and just like working out; initially it’s going to take some sort of incentive or encouraging motivation to get started.


In all my years as a fitness professional it’s rare that I find a lot of people that naturally are excited about their first workout. In fact it’s safe to say a lot of people are nervous & anxious, simply because they’re not even sure they’ll do it right. Or they’re afraid everyone else is twenty steps ahead of them. Some have said to me directly that they see the long road ahead of them and think there’s no way they can get there.

From day 1 it starts with finding a reason to start moving/praying. Everyone’s reason is different, so the motivation to start will push you with a force that’s required according to your own need. To me that pretty amazing that God created us in such a way that we have this little mechanism inside of us that recognizes our individual needs and responds once we simply recognize that we need EVEN IF we aren’t yet sure what the need is.

That’s where we all start. Don’t believe the lie (the voice in your head) that says everyone is ready & excited all the time; when you look around at the people posting on social media about their workouts, what they ate for lunch or their positive messages & faith walk; it can feel discouraging if you’re not quite there yet.

BE ENCOURAGED. We all started at square one.

Every new day we do one more rep. (That just means the number of times you repeat a movement or series of movements as a ‘repetition’) Each new rep makes us stronger!

Every new day you get the opportunity to make one more decision to live better.

Every new day you make one more move to get your heart pumpin.

Every new day YOU make one more decision to exchange your thoughts of defeat, compromise, regret, rejection, for thoughts that feed your soul.

Thoughts that are parallel & identical to what God says about you.

Thoughts that remind you of who God says you are.

Thoughts that initially feel too heavy or difficult to pick up because the devil wants you to doubt your own strength so he tries to make you think you aren’t worthy to live up to them. But Christ says “no I have chosen you”, (1 Peter 2:9 ) “I have created you, wonderfully”. (Psalm 139) “I have plans for your future” (Jeremiah 29).

Every time you pick up God’s words (scriptures) and begin to speak them, you are strengthening your faith!

Faith increases by hearing the truth of Christ (Romans 10:17); faith is a muscle, pick up the truth like it was your strength training program; work it out!!!

Your faith becomes a shield! Carry your shield at all times! It protects you from fiery darts of attacks, threats, jabs, insults, your own doubts, comparisons, negative thoughts…

Faith is like a muscle, the more you use it, the stronger it becomes!!

Be cheerful no matter what; pray all the time; thank God no matter what happens. This is the way God wants you who belong to Christ Jesus to live. Don’t suppress the Spirit, and don’t stifle those who have a word from the Master. On the other hand, don’t be gullible. Check out everything, and keep only what’s good. Throw out anything tainted with evil.

May God himself, the God who makes everything holy and whole, make you holy and whole, put you together—spirit, soul, and body—and keep you fit for the coming of our Master, Jesus Christ.

Don’t forget to grab your interval workout from the March challenge! You can do this!

The One who called you is completely dependable. If he said it, he’ll do it! (1 Thessalonians 5:12-24 MSG)


Hebrews 11:1,2 (Message)The fundamental fact of existence is that this trust in God, {this faith}, is the firm foundation under everything that makes life worth living. It’s our handle on what we can’t see. {brackets mine – emphasis on THIS FAITH}


Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well. 3 John 1:2

“Things feed us in life, that are not necessarily on our plate. These foods are secondary. Our primary ‘food’ comes from our daily lives.”-Joshua Rosenthal (Founder of Institute of Integrative Nutrition)

My goal is to help you live healthy; spirit, soul and body. To keep your heart pumpin & spirit movin’.

Maybe you’ve tried to “eat better” or tried some sort of quick fix plan or maybe you’ve given up all together.  What you put inside your body has more lasting benefits than what you look like on the outside.

We all know that what you eat is important. But so is when you eat, especially if you’re active. That’s why, in this workout nutrition infographic, we share what to eat before, during, and after exercise.



Take the 30 day Healthy & Happy inneractive FitLIFE challenge…Taste for yourself and see what freedom feels like & the difference in how you feel.

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Contact me today to start feeling better

You’re created to thrive not survive. (3 John 1:2)

Feed your body, feed your soul #getinneractive