How I measure success: do more with less

 

“Here is my advice: It would be good for you to finish what you started a year ago. Last year you were the first who wanted to give, and you were the first to begin doing it. Now you should finish what you started. Let the eagerness you showed in the beginning be matched now by your giving. Give in proportion to what you have. Whatever you give is acceptable if you give it eagerly. And give according to what you have, not what you don’t have. Of course, I don’t mean your giving should make life easy for others and hard for yourselves. I only mean that there should be some equality. Right now you have plenty and can help those who are in need. Later, they will have plenty and can share with you when you need it. In this way, things will be equal. As the Scriptures say, “Those who gathered a lot had nothing left over, and those who gathered only a little had enough.””
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2 Corinthians‬ ‭8:10-15‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Did you have one word for this year? Maybe you called it an intention, mantra or focus. This is the one word that brings you back when you tend to get off course. When all of the shiny things catch your attention and comparison tries to have it’s way with your head and has you thinking all the things; this one word adjusts your focus.

My one word for this year was ESTABLISH. I’ll dig more into that in the next few posts or you’re free to do a search on this blog for the phrase “One Word” and take a look at the words over the past four years.  The reason I ask is because whenever we consider living healthy, it MUST be done in partnership with God and His (one) Word. Y’all you know it’s true, because left on our own; to our own devices we will rationalize and justify our plans and excuses and come up with options that seem good but they ultimately just feed our flesh (emotions, desires, lust etc) and without a doubt lead us down a slow slippery slope of destruction. Let me pause, I probably shouldn’t assume that just because you’re reading this that you’ve agreed to allow God access to that area of your life. Or even that you knew that was an option. That assumption is foolish and I apologize and would like to offer you some insight into why this is my WHY.

I’ve been a fitness trainer for almost 14 years and had it not been for someone inviting me to an aerobics class back when my days were filled with changing diapers, gold fish crackers and endless hours of Disney Channel, Storytime and Nick Jr.; I may have not known that God cared about my OWN wellbeing. My identity was completely consumed with life as a stay-at-home mom and the idea of Jesus being anywhere other than inside of a church building was foreign and reserved for the highly spiritual people; which I was not! So, fast forward to this life that has by trial and error found my hope, peace, joy, purpose, balance, breath and identity in Christ alone – not by perfection but grace – and I offer you a potentially brand new option and understanding of the often heard “let go and let God”

Back to the One Word. Here’s a better understanding of it, and a review of your own success if you’ve been on that journey yourself. I’d love to know in the comments what your one word is.

My One Word for 2017 is Establish. Again, I invite you to do a search on my blog to see how God has defined that word for me this year.

Alright friend, thank you for sticking around this far into the post. I have a few simple tools to help you measure your own success. Be well.

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Do more with less 

I must decrease, He must be increased – John 3:30

 

A few moves to keep your heart pumpin’

 

And a bit to keep your spirit movin’

Eat smart

Who decides to schedule a session with a trainer and nutrition coach DURING the holidays?
 
The person that refuses to be a slave to the fork or the scale.
 
The person that says that they don’t need to wait until January to “get it together”.
 
The person that says “I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired”.
 
The person who says just because I can, doesn’t mean it’s worth it.
 
The person who says there’s a way that seems right but I’ve found out that it’s slowly destroying my body, my mind and my spirit.
 
Are you that person?
I’m opening my January calendar now to take on 5 new clients for personal training and nutrition coaching. If this is you, contact me and let’s schedule a consultation.
 
1 Corinthians 10:23 (AMPC)
 
All things are legitimate [permissible—and we are free to do anything we please], but not all things are helpful (expedient, profitable, and wholesome). All things are legitimate, but not all things are constructive [to character] and edifying [to spiritual life].
When it comes to eating healthy, whether during the holidays or on a day-to-day decision, our best choices are made when they are focused on what will nourish us well. As most of us are in different seasons of life and none of our bodies are identical; it would be down-right foolish of me to Rx or dare you to subscribe to a one size fits all meal plan. Having said that, I have put together a simple grocery shopping list of a few staples I keep in our house to feed my family well. If you find something on that list that just doesn’t agree with your taste, then don’t eat it. Be sure to grab that list here.  If you know that you need a more personalized plan, I’d love to schedule a consultation with you.  You can find more information about my nutrition coaching programs here.

A soundtrack for your success in this season 

 

Permission to be grateful & still desire change

You can be grateful and still desire change

 

It happens, probably more times than I dare to admit. I find myself, comparing myself, with the many layers of my former self.

Then, without even recognizing I’ve done it, I begin to lose the joy I so tangibly felt the Lord give me. The immeasurable, unspeakable joy that seemed to overwhelm me, somehow quickly evaporates as immediate as the thought came and went.

But it makes me question, was it the thought that stole the joy or has the thought simply clouded my understanding of why I have the joy. (TRUTH BOMB: John10:10)

It’s like driving down the street and seeing things clearly in your front window and all of a sudden you drive into a patch of dense fog and humidity and your windows become smudged from both the inside and outside. It’s easy to assume that there is no way to see clearly until you hit that defrost button on the dashboard. Viola!! I can see clearly now.  This is what happens in the moment of a thought. We can actually hit that “defrost my mind” button called the Holy Spirit and literally have Him clear the way.  (1 Corinthians 13:10-12, Psalm 119:105)

Yesterday I asked God to clarify something that caused me to slightly lose my joy. Not completely lose it, but you know, one of those thoughts that made me sad. That’s a lie, it made me frustrated. It made me frustrated, then I started second guessing my own worth and then came the comparisons and then the fear, the bitterness, the resentment, the judgement, the this and the that and one thing after another I found myself upset with myself. All because of one tiny thought.

But here’s the thing friend, that thought is tiny enough to ruin you. It’s like a grain of sand in your shoe. Or a splinter in your palm. Or an eyelash in your eye, that you can’t find. Or the papercut… I think you get what I mean. (Galatians 5:7-9) 

 

“When I am consumed by my problems-stressed out about my life, my family, and my job-

I actually convey the belief that I think the circumstances are more important than God’s command to always rejoice.”
― Francis ChanCrazy Love: Overwhelmed by a Relentless God

Let’s talk about this frustration and what it’s doing to our spirit, soul and body.

FRUSTRA’TIONnoun The act of frustrating; disappointment; defeat; as the frustration of one’s attempt or design. (Source: Websters 1828 dictionary)

frus·tra·tion
frəˈstrāSH(ə)n/
noun
  1. the feeling of being upset or annoyed, especially because of inability to change or achieve something.
    “I sometimes feel like screaming with frustration”
    synonyms: exasperationannoyanceangervexationirritation;

    • an event or circumstance that causes one to have a feeling of frustration.
      plural noun: frustrations
      “the inherent frustrations of assembly line work”
    • the prevention of the progress, success, or fulfillment of something.
      “the frustration of their wishes”
      synonyms: thwarting, defeatprevention, foiling, blocking, spoiling, circumvention, forestalling, disappointmentderailment;

(Source: google definitions, frustration synonyms)

alllllrighty then…

Y’all… ok can we seriously just pause there and talk about this. What are we doing to ourselves? Frustration is prevention, blocking, derailing… (Galatians 5: You were running the race so well. Who has held you back from following the truth?) …man I could seriously list all of the physical implications of this havoc on our bodies. Not to mention, what’s happening in our bodies is a result of what’s happening in our minds and our choices. Oh goodness, y’all can we look at this connection to what’s coming out of our mouths?

Our words have tremendous power to either give life or snatch it. Friends, we cannot allow the enemy to gain so much territory in our minds. (Ephesians 4:25-28 New Living Translation)

So, yeah I’ll admit it. People frustrate me when I see their potential and they refuse to rise up to it. I get frustrated with myself when I realize the time wasters that are just flat out foolish.

Several weeks ago I attended a women’s leadership conference and had a million and one moments with the Holy Spirit where He kept nudging me reminding me that I was hearing truths He had been speaking to me all year. But that I hadn’t moved on what He had spoken to me because of fear, I’m gonna even suggest frustration. At the end of the conference I literally had no words to describe what happened. The next day the Lord told me it was an awakening. (Ephesians 5:14)

See my word for this year is ESTABLISH. Present tense. He told me that He was going to show me all the things that were in me that I doubted, questioned, wondered if they’d ever be used, and even ignored because I thought they were too much or not enough. All of the areas in my life where I kept disqualifying myself, this year He’s been reaffirming and redeeming. This revelation hasn’t been anything new, and it’s nothing unique to me. See God is in the business of reminding us who we are, in Him and He has one specific plan; that we would know that we are dearly loved by Him, perfectly. This perfect love removes all of that fear, doubt, questioning and wondering. The scarcity mindset of second guessing if we’ll be enough or have enough is blotted out when we recognize that we get to live and love others from the overflow of what He has freely given us. Go back and read Ephesians 4 then might I suggest that we park on James 3.

Job 22:28-30 Holman Christian Standard Bible (HCSB)

When you make a decision, it will be carried out, and light will shine on your ways. When others are humiliated and you say, “Lift them up,” God will save the humble. He will even rescue the guilty one, who will be rescued by the purity of your hands.

 

After the leadership conference I went on a personal development journey in an effort to clear out some mental clutter and came across the podcast of one of the speakers. I attempted to listen to one episode of her podcast but almost vomited on my own pride when I read the title. “Excuses That Steal Your Time”; almost immediately a word cloud response regurgitated from the pit of my stomach flooded with everything I thought I was doing productively. Y’all busy isn’t productive. Talking about our stuff isn’t progress. Rehashing old injuries isn’t beneficial.

1 Corinthians 10:23Amplified Bible, Classic Edition (AMPC)

All things are legitimate [permissible—and we are free to do anything we please], but not all things are helpful (expedient, profitable, and wholesome). All things are legitimate, but not all things are constructive [to character] and edifying [to spiritual life].

Desiring Change 

 

Half of the reason many of us struggle with body image and self esteem issues is because we only know how to do the work in our heads but we don’t know why we are worth more than just a number on the scale or our clothes so we keep learning more assuming more is better.

Well, more is not better, better is better. But again, I say, we must be mindful of whether we are just (head) learning it; do we know it in our hearts?

The REVELATION concerning WELLNESS is a heart issue. Go read Chapters 5 & 6. Those 2 chapters alone could teach a years worth of lessons!

My next Wellness Revelation small group begins in January, however if you’re interested in participating in a 7 day detox click here to sign up…http://eepurl.com/dbZo3v

 

And now, just as you accepted Christ Jesus as your Lord, you must continue to follow him. Let your roots grow down into him, and let your lives be built on him. Then your faith will grow strong in the truth you were taught, and you will overflow with thankfulness. Don’t let anyone capture you with empty philosophies and high-sounding nonsense that come from human thinking and from the spiritual powers of this world, rather than from Christ. For in Christ lives all the fullness of God in a human body.

So don’t let anyone condemn you for what you eat or drink, or for not celebrating certain holy days or new moon ceremonies or Sabbaths.

Don’t let anyone condemn you by insisting on pious self-denial or the worship of angels, saying they have had visions about these things. Their sinful minds have made them proud, and they are not connected to Christ, the head of the body. For he holds the whole body together with its joints and ligaments, and it grows as God nourishes it. You have died with Christ, and he has set you free from the spiritual powers of this world. So why do you keep on following the rules of the world, such as, “Don’t handle! Don’t taste! Don’t touch!”? Such rules are mere human teachings about things that deteriorate as we use them. These rules may seem wise because they require strong devotion, pious self-denial, and severe bodily discipline. But they provide no help in conquering a person’s evil desires.”
‭‭Colossians‬ ‭2:6-9, 16, 18-23‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“When it’s hard and you are doubtful, give more.”
― Francis ChanCrazy Love: Overwhelmed by a Relentless God

 

 

Years ago I learned that change ain’t change until it’s changed. So, Let’s move.

Song: Live for the drop by Capital Kings

I don’t know about y’all but I’m over it. I’m done with just talkin about it, planning on it and not actually putting in the work. Are you ready to shift that frustration into FOCUS?

Download your readiness for change assessment today and let’s talk

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Coming soon… MY FAVORITE THINGS… 

 

 

The true shape of our bodies

 

The reality is, we are clay in His hands. We are being sculpted and molded for the work He has called us to do, to carry whatever He needs us to carry.

Our shape, size, depth and ability are all dependent on our willingness to maintain our identity as the clay.

Could you potentially feel overwhelmed because you are trying hard to look like something you were never intended to be?

Could you feel “overweight” because you are carrying a burden that is suppose to be left at the Cross?

Could you be feeling “not enough” because you were created and crafted to be filled with substance not stuff?

Could the pain you’re feeling actually be the work of His hands kneading out the rough spots and sealing the cracks of your vessel?

Pay attention to the potter, the clay, the wheel used (which is controlled by his feet), and how the potter molds the clay.

 

 

Healthy Holidays: Always and never enough.

November 1st. Wow yall seriously 2017 is almost over but honestly I don’t want to *cause* myself to walk into a fit of “oh no what are we gonna do” so I’m giving myself permission to pause.

I want to let this month be more about less doing and INTENTIONALLY (more than normal) be focused on ALWAYS BEING. (Philippians 1:1-4)

Lately I’ve felt an overwhelming unsettling happening in my spirit, soul and body and today I listened to a podcast that suggested perhaps the unsettling is a hint at a case of the “never enough”…

Cue the ugly cry.

Right?

Because how often are we feeling never enough.

Pardon me for including you in that but I think I’m safe. But, Forgive me if you’re not feeling that squeeze.

This month, we’re starting there. In the ‘always and never’.

If you’re not there, can I still invite you to come sit at the table and maybe, you’ll find something that feeds whatever you’ve been hungry for.

Always and never.

These two words I heard in my spirit a few months ago when I sat down to read through Proverbs 31. I honestly let out a rebellious sigh thinking to myself that I can never measure up to her and almost before I could finish the thought, the Holy Spirit poured out this truth “you are not allowed to ever consider yourself in the context of your identity as always or never, to do so would cause you to miss the opportunities of growth, transformation and whatever I am currently doing through you.”

When He gave me this to consider, He followed up with the fact that when He designed us, it was with the truth that we are created in His Image; Imago Dei; and whenever we consider the gifts, talents, mind, ability and opportunities in this life; we are walking in authority with the ability that He gave us in order to be the hands and feet of Christ. We are here to finish the work that He started in us. Therefore, knowing this truth, we are and have never arrived completely at always or never.

Have I confused you?

Perfect. Because this is the very thing that the deception of the lie of comparison does. It convinces us that we are always something or the other or it cleverly describes one mistake as an absolute spiraling us down a slope of defeat called never. And His word promises that we are all being transformed everyday with renewed minds.

Friends, breathe.

Let’s do this one day at a time. Could you use that pause. I didn’t say you have to quit doing anything, I am merely suggesting a more specific intention regarding being.

So here’s what we’re doing in this season of life. We’ll be digging into the words of Paul that remind us how to adjust our focus toward lasting joy.

Our anchor verse is Philippians 4:8; but we are going to dig into the entire book using the She Reads Truth study guide also found here with devotionals ( http://shereadstruth.com/plan/philippians/ )

Whatsoever things are true,
whatsoever things are honest,
whatsoever things are just
whatsoever things are pure
whatsoever things are lovely
whatsoever things are of good report
if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. (Philippians 4:8)

 

Here is our Digging Deeper Reading Plan

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

AND don’t forget about the upcoming Get Unstuck class… and of course there’s a song for it…

 

Write It Down & Get Unstuck

Write it down. Write down everything He says to you even if it makes zero sense. Write it down because I guarantee you’ll forget it. Write it down because one day you’re going to need to pull this out and remind yourself of who you are and just how much He has done for you. Everything you’ve ever searched for, everything you’ve ever tucked away as a desire of your heart and all those tiny spaces you thought He wasn’t concerned about; He’s there speaking. Listen, and write.

Walk This Way

Your own ears will hear him. Right behind you a voice will say, “This is the way you should go,” whether to the right or to the left. Isaiah 30:21

Friends, I’m inviting you to join me for a few workshops (some in person, some online) to help you get unstuck. Much of our “stuck” is self imposed and the lie that satan wants us to believe is that if/since we got ourselves in the muck, we must certainly find a way out. Well let me just tell you; first off that’s a lie and secondly, God is always there to provide a way of escape for us.

Oh y’all, I want to keep going with this because honestly, whether it’s spiritual, physical, emotional, financial, relational; wherever that lie has snuck in, we get to ask ourselves the question “who told you that”.

Anything. Every thought that comes at us; or better yet, comes for us; we need to be willing to ask ourselves “who said that”.

Just as in the garden God had to ask Adam & Eve “who told you you were naked”; when we ask these questions we’ll start to figure out if these seemingly random thoughts we’re having are from the life giving source of God or the steal, kill and destroy deception of the enemy.

Whether the thoughts come from us, what we read, listen to or the company we keep; EVERY THOUGHT must be sifted through His hands!

Get Unstuck

Friend the first step to getting unstuck is pausing to recognize that we get to move forward. Identify where you are, and begin putting one foot in front of the other.

Galatians 5:7-10 You were running the race so well. Who has held you back from following the truth? It certainly isn’t God, for he is the one who called you to freedom. 9This false teaching is like a little yeast that spreads through the whole batch of dough! I am trusting the Lord to keep you from believing false teachings.

 

 

 

Sign up here for the next #iamnotstuck workshop

Date: Monday November 13th 7:30pm EST

The workshop will be hosted on ZOOM (once you are registered you will receive the link to access the webinar)